***QUESTION***

First of all, lets get things straight. I don't
like you. In fact, I hate you. Your success with
women disgusts me, and the way you have it down to
a science so well that you even make ME laugh
sometimes with your smartassed comments to the
lamers who write you vexes me. But it intrigues me
as well. Your stuff works. So I use it. Doesn't
mean I like you. Just means I like your "tools."

Anyway, the problem I'm having lately is I meet
and flirt with a lot of women using c&f, but when
it comes time for things to get a little physical,
they tell me they're waiting for marriage to do
all that! WtF?! Is there a way around this kind of
a "defense" that women use on me oh so often?
(Besides dumping their celibate asses.)

Name: D Location: Bufffalo, New York.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   You know, this is just a guess, but maybe your
challenges with women stem from the dark cloud
around your SOUL!

   ...ah-hem.

   Dude, I can tell that you're attempting to be
funny here, but it also sounds to me like you've
got some anger issues that might need professional
attention.

   OK, the way to "get around" the "I'm waiting
for marriage" defense is to stop acting like a
bitter WUSSY.

   If women consistently tell you, "I'm waiting
for marriage before I get physical," it can only
mean one of two things:

1) You're shopping for women at the convent.

2) You're CAUSING the resistance you're getting.

   Most guys don't realize this, but THEY are the
ones who cause women to resist and make excuses.

   Really.

   And by the way, don't EVER again say that you
don't like me, but you like my TOOL. That's not
cool.

***QUESTION***

Dave- you da man! I just had a great experience
that I feel merits an email to you. There's a very
upscale restaurant/bar at which you can even buy
cigars from their humidor. There's a piano player
that plays jazzy tunes, and the place is pretty
expensive, quiet, with the aura of big money
patrons. (I love cigars and jazz, which is why I
wanted to go there so badly.)

So, as I've always wanted to go there, and I
finally mustered the courage to put on my best
suit and tie (complete with cufflinks), so I'd
look the part, despite the fact that I'm not rich
like the other patrons. The women there are
usually in groups, and they wreak of old money.

I sat alone and nursed a martini for about 30
minutes, while I scoped out the babes. I zeroed
in on a tall, stunningly gorgeous blond. (I have a
weakness for tall blonds.) I used the "Can I
borrow her for a minute?" trick, and it worked
like a charm! Then I teased her for having
friends who would just let her go off with a total
stranger. Then I mixed a lot of listening with a
bit of c/f once she joined me at my table.

She told me she was hungry, so I told her I was
getting hungry, too, and that I was about to
become nasty if I didn't get something to eat
soon. Then I said, "You're not very attractive,
but since I do happen to like that dress on you,
I'll be a sport and let you buy me dinner just
this once." I couldn't believe I said that!!!! I
was a little scared that she'd get pissed off and
leave.

She ended up buying me an expensive dinner!!! Plus
I got her phone number and email. I told her I do
a lot of traveling (which I don't), but that I'd
try to remember to call her next time I was in
town. She then asked me for my number and email!

I am still in shock. This girl looks like a
supermodel, plus she's rich! I really want to
call her or email her, but I'm deliberately
waiting, in order to give her the gift of missing
me. And though it's only been a day since it
happened, I still think she'll contact me first.
Should I wait for her to contact me or should I
contact her?

J

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   lol... you're cracking me up over here.

   While I don't recommend lying to women, I still
find your story pretty funny.

   Thanks for the email, and for affirming that
these concepts we're talking about appeal
universally to women... rich and poor alike.

***SUCCESS STORY***

David,

Your book and newsletters are great and I TRULY
appreciate them, so I won't waste time telling you
about that. I had a success story tonight that I
just had to tell you about even though it's 4 in
the morning, I'm just that pumped. I just left a
fraternity party of mine, and there was this chick
there that has been hanging around the house and
with some of the other guys for a while (tall,
thin, blonde hair, bout an 8.5). She was at the
apartment we were partying at, and she sits down
next to me no the couch. I introduce her and have
a little small talk, and she makes a comment that
one of the guys told her that I am a photographer
(I work for a local newspaper full time) and that
she wanted me to take some pictures of her so that
she can get into modeling. I say, "So, you want
to be a parts model? You have some sexy toes?
(you're good Dave). She says, "What, you don't
think I'm hot?" I just kind of shrug that one
off. She acts shocked and I just go on.
Basically, all night I busted on her, looks and
everything, and she would act shocked at my
comments but I could tell she liked it (she's
5'11, so when I leave to go to the bathroom or
whatever I tell her, "You're like 6'5, so if
anybody takes my seat you put them in a choke
hold." Needless to say my seat never got taken
when I told her). I couldn't believe it Dave, I
would never have done this stuff before. She even
made a comment that I was such an a**hole and none
of the guys had ever treated her like this. I
would just smile and say "I know." She was eating
it up. I even told her at one point to go get ME
another beer. I was shocked when she said yes.
Later I gave her a ride back to her dorm, and on
the way home she was talking about how she needs
to quit hitting on guys, and told me about a game
she plays at parties with her friends where they
bet if they can get a guy to make out with them in
a certain amount of time. I tell her I wouldn't,
I'm not that easy. She's like, "Not even me?" And
I go on with the not easy part and she would at
least have to buy me dinner. Long story short I
get her number and she tells me to call her like 3
times. Right before she gets out of the car I
say, "Can I kiss you?" She says yes, and I say,
"Ok, I'll make sure to do that,"... She says oh
right and leans in to kiss ME. I couldn't believe
it Dave. I am on a high that no drug could ever
give, and I have you to thank for it. This is
probably too long, but I had to tell you.

Thanks a million. K. in Texas

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Well, what else is there to say?

   There's really nothing like experiencing this
stuff in real life.

   The first few times that you apply the material
and get women feeling ATTRACTION for you, are
amazing.

   You wonder why the hell you didn't figure it
all out before.

   Great job. You're the man. Thanks for the
story!

***COMMENT***

Hi Dave,

First off, not to sound like everyone else, but
your stuff rocks!!! With that being said I'd like
to offer a comment on J.M. from New Hampshire's
predicament.

J.M. said "What's the best way to deal with a girl
coming out and saying "oh, you're so
cute/funny/etc..."? Should I ignore it and keep
the c/f going? Should I address it in a cocky
way?"

A couple of my favorite lines to use:

She: Your so cute. Me: If you want cute buy a
puppy.

She: Your so funny. Me: Yeah, but looks aren't
everything.

It works great to down play her comments. Make
fun of yourself, but don't draw too much
attention. Act disinterested in her comments and
move on with the conversation. Let's her know you
really are comfortable in your skin and she should
really be closer to that skin!!

Hittin Heavy in Iowa, (with no sheep, LOL) S.W.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Man, I don't even like sheep JOKES anymore.

   You know, what I'm wondering is why they sell
those blow-up sheep DOLLS in the adult stores.
What's the deal? Are they for guys that don't even
have enough game to pick up a SHEEP?

   OK, whatever.

   These are great comebacks.

   I personally don't use very much humor that
makes fun of myself early on... but your stuff is
great.

   Thanks for the comments.

***QUESTION***

What's wrong with this letter. She works at Burger
King and I handed it to her. She didnt talk to me
anymore.

[The Letter]:

C,

I like you!

You have an electrifying gracious attitude at
Burger King. You are leaving soon so lets chat on
the phone. Don't judge me by my lack of
conversation at the restaurant. I get a mental
block at times. Let me know if your interested.
OK.... Thank you

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   What's wrong with this letter?

   Well, other than the fact that it's the worst
thing I've ever seen, nothing really.

   "You have an electrifying and gracious attitude
at Burger King..."?!

   Say what?

   Dude, why didn't you just say, "I am a stalker,
and every night when I go to sleep I can see you
flipping Whoppers?"

***QUESTION***

Hey David,

I love reading your newsletters every time you
mail them out, and I am going to buy your e-book
as soon as I get back from my vacation in New
York. While I'm out there though, I'd like to
know one thing. I like the newsletters you mail
out that deal with getting a girls number for the
first time. But I can't get myself to get started
even to that point. Yes, I know I'm really afraid
of rejection and that makes me make up excuses as
to why I won't come up to a girl.

I completely feel the way you say that I should
come up to a girl, talk to her for a minute, then
say something like "I have to get back to work
now," leave and then turn back and say "Hey, do
you have e-mail?" But my question is this: How do
I get a girls attention to begin with? In other
words, what do I say to her so that she will want
to talk to me for that minute you talk about? I
don't feel like saying "Excuse me, Hi... my name
is ..., do you work around here?" would be the
best solution for this. Do you?

Thanks for the newsletters because they are slowly
but surely making me grow some balls enough to get
up and go talk to a girl!

CAT, San Francisco, CA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   You know, it's funny...

   You're asking a question that every guy in the
world wants to know the answer to.

   It's a simple answer... and it's a DAMN complex
answer at the same time.

   One of the KEYS to approaching women you don't
know is being able to do it as comfortably and
naturally as you call your mom.

   If you get nervous, shaky, and freaked out the
woman will pick up on this... and it will make HER
nervous.

   You can walk up to a woman and say, "Hi, I
don't have time to talk, but if you're single I'd
really like to talk to you sometime... do you have
email?"... and if you do it in a calm, comfortable
way, you can get a HIGH percentage of women to
give you their info right there on the spot with
no conversation needed.

   On the other hand, if you're freaked out,
nervous, and acting like you're all jacked up on
speed while driving a getaway car, it doesn't
matter WHAT you say.

   Experts estimate that approximately 7% of your
communication is the words you use, and 93% is
your voice tone and body language.

   In other words, the WORDS aren't very important
at all.

   So, how do you get the voice tone and body
language under control... and more importantly,
your EMOTIONS?

   Well, this is a simple and complex problem as
well.

   Personally, I have found that understanding
exactly how and why women feel sexual attraction
for men has DRAMATICALLY changed the way I
interact with women.

   If you DON'T understand this important process,
you're just going to be "faking" it. If you DO
understand it, you're going to be COMMUNICATING
differently, and communicating with a different
PART of the woman.

   Keep educating yourself. My eBook and Video/
audio programs will give you an amazing education
in this area, and can help transform your fear and
hesitation into ACTION.

***QUESTION***

David,

I've got to say that your emails have been a
great help and your CD series is unstoppable! In
both your emails and CD's you mention movie
characters to study and model yourself after.
Could write up a list of movies that you think are
worth watching for the Cocky & Funny attitude.

Thanks Dave.

B. D. Chicago

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Some of my favorite scenes:

- Indiana Jones And The Temple Of Doom... the
after-dinner scene when they're in the bedroom.

- Top Gun... when he follows her into the
bathroom.

- The newest James Bond flick... basically
everything.

- Gone With The Wind... the scene right after
Scarlet and Ashley are alone in that library type
room toward the beginning... when she throws the
vase and then Rhett Butler stands up from behind
the couch and starts chatting with her.

- Also, listen to how Howard Stern and David
Letterman mess with people CONSTANTLY. Great
stuff.

***QUESTION***

Dear David,

Amazing job with your e-book "Double your Dating",
I finally understand why most of the girls I've
been with left me after less than a month. I had
the natural humor, but it was mostly meant for
goofing off instead of being cocky.

My question is about kissing. From my dates, in
the second or third date, I would kiss the girl
using your tips (e.g. the hair) but I am not
really sure I am getting a good *job* into kissing
a girl. Its not like I can leave a comment box
after the date... do you have any suggestions on how
to make a good and memorable kiss? You did say
that a first kiss with a girl is pretty much like
first impressions ;)

- From one of your many loyal fans

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   This is a great question.

   I'm going to share a little secret with you.

   It's a secret that I talk about all the time...
in my newsletters... my book... my seminars... my
Advanced Program.

   The secret is ANTICIPATION.

   Anticipation is such an important concept when
it comes to "getting physical" with a woman.

   I believe that it's important to incorporate it
into every part of your interactions with a
woman... really.

   Now, if you really don't know how to kiss a
woman, then I have a recommendation:

   START SLOW, THEN MIRROR WHAT SHE DOES.

   Here's how to mix this strategy with
ANTICIPATION.

   Let's say that you decide it's time to kiss
her. You use the "Kiss Test", and she's enjoying
it... so you lean over to kiss her.

   Just as you start to kiss her... when you first
feel your lips touching hers... stop right there.
Brush your lips back and forth on hers a little
bit... then pull away without actually kissing
her.

   Then smile at her.

   You'll probably be sitting there thinking, "Why
the hell didn't I just kiss her?"

   She'll probably be sitting there tingling all
over, and feeling like she wants to jump on you.

   Next, lean back. Talk a little more.

   A few minutes later, touch her hair again.

   Then lean over to kiss her again. This time, go
VERY slowly... gently press your lips against
hers. Hold them there for a moment, and feel how
she responds.

   If she kisses you the same way, then just stop,
lean back, and relax again for a few minutes.

   The next time you kiss her, open your mouth
just a little bit, and see if she does the same.

   Do this a couple of times.

   At some point, she will probably start
"escalating" the kisses, because the anticipation
is just too much for her.

   At this point, stop her. Push her away, and
smile.

   MORE ANTICIPATION.

   Just keep mirroring how she's kissing you as
things get more and more intense. This is a great
way to "learn" how to kiss... and she'll enjoy it,
because you'll be doing exactly what she likes!

   By the way, if you'd like to learn how to both
SPARK and BUILD that magical thing that women call
"chemistry" and "sexual tension," then it's
important that you learn and MASTER the technique
that I call "Cocky Comedy."

   Before you can get into building PHYSICAL
anticipation and taking things to a PHYSICAL
level, you must trigger ATTRACTION inside of
her...

   And Cocky Comedy is the one single technique
that accomplishes this for you... and the best
part is that you can do it with your COMMUNICATION
ALONE.

   No good looks, no buying dinners, and no giving
lavish gifts required (in fact, these things can
actually work against you).

   And what's the best way to learn Cocky Comedy?

   It's simple: Get yourself a copy of my new
Cocky Comedy CD/DVD program.

   Listen as I and my guest teachers take you
"behind the scenes"... and teach you the magic
technique that guys who are NATURALLY good with
women use to create ATTRACTION.

   It took me a massive amount of time and effort
to even DISCOVER this technique... and then years
to MASTER it...

   And you can learn dozens and dozens of sure-
fire lines and comebacks with just a few hours of
fun listening.

   In fact, check out this email that I got from a
guy who just got this program:

"Dear Double D,

Do you remember when you said that some guys "get
it" in a week and others in a year or more? Well I
was one of the "Year or More". Well two years,
three months, and 24 hours later I finally "get
it" and it happened right when I was about to give
up entirely.

Well let me give a little background on me. I was
that 1 in every 3 guys that are below average
looking, suffer from morbid obesity, 21,
generosity is a good thing, mom's advice for
picking up women is the best, and always have a
date every year or so. Now I AM that 1 in every
three guys that are below average looking, 21, and
suffer from morbid obesity. I did exactly what you
told me not to do. I just jumped in head first
into the Advanced and Mastery programs, negating
all the signs saying I should go back to the
beginning. I thought to myself "Hey I can just use
the pick up lines and some of this other stuff and
I'll be instantly successful with women." That
didn't work and I found my face getting very red
and my shirt getting very wet from women's
rejections.

I got your Cocky Comedy program a few days ago. I
listened it back to back probably eleven times and
I still wasn't getting it. Well, last Friday I
tried again using the new lines I had learned but
I still found my shirt wet. I got very upset. Now
I am not talking hissy fit upset, I am talking
"it's go time" upset. I decided to go and blow off
some steam. I had heard that a new coffee shop was
opening up. I thought why not can't hurt anything
more. No more than about two minutes after me
entering the shop, a feisty definite 10 redhead
walks in. I got up to try. I got behind her in
line and looked at her thinking what could I say.
She caught me looking and said "It's not polite to
stare, you know." I snapped back with "Then why
are you staring." "I am not." she said. I then
mocked it, gave her the name Kid, then she was
putty in my hand. I asked for email and then said
"You know you're probably just going to stare at
my picture the entire time online. Why don't you
give me you number as well?" She wrote it down and
slammed the piece of paper in my hand. "There,
happy. Now be here at 7:00 next week." I said "No
you be at Starbucks at 7:30 next week. And I'll
think about joining you." "Think about it..?" she
said in a kind of cooing voice. I said dominantly
"Think about it!"

I never in all my life felt like that. And I could
never have done this without your help thanks
Double D. I'll let you know how everything works
out.

Thanks in MS, DA"

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   ...lol, I guess that will teach him to start
from the beginning and learn the basics first.

   I have a lot of guys write me to say, "I know
this girl who's beautiful and smart and
attractive. She and I are great friends, we have
everything in common, and we get along
perfectly... but she says that she's just not
attracted to me..."

   Have you ever noticed that:

1) The most attractive and interesting women seem
to be attracted to men who don't treat them very
well?

2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman the more
she often seems to act like "just a friend" to
you?

   What's going on here? Didn't mom say to be
"nice" to girls?

   Here's the deal: Women aren't usually
romantically attracted to "nice" guys. Women are
attracted to men who are funny, confident, and
mysterious. Good looks don't hurt, but if you're
not 6'4" tall and model-handsome, then you have to
learn how to attract women with your personality.

   And being "nice" isn't going to do it for you.

   A while back, I mentioned an interesting book
that was written about the band "Motley Crue."
Remember those guys?

   Well, the book is called "The Dirt: Confessions
of the Worlds Most Notorious Rock Band." As I read
through that book, I realized that these guys have
dated more of the world's most attractive women
than anyone (except maybe Hugh Hefner).

   In case you didn't know, the guys in Motley
Crue are not very "nice." They're famous for
taking every drug known to man, beating their
women, fighting, and having a lot of people die
around them.

   Now, the first thing most guys say is, "Yeah,
but they're rich and famous..."

   And this is true, they are rich and famous.
But, and it's a BIG ONE... all of the women that
they have dated, married, and beaten up are ALSO
RICH AND FAMOUS TOO!

   These are supermodels and playmates of the year
and such. These women can date whoever they want.
Tommy Lee was MARRIED to both Heather Locklear AND
Pamela Anderson... remember?

   These women didn't need Tommy Lee for his money
or his fame... they're dating these guys for some
OTHER REASON!

   Are you with me on this?

   So what's going on here? And more importantly,
how can you use this information to be more
successful with women and dating?

   First of all, don't go out and start taking
drugs and beating up your dates. I mean, I know
that an occasional woman will drive a man to
drink, but I don't recommend going "Motley Crue"
on a girl... lol.

   The first chapter of my book "Double Your
Dating" is called "Women Don't Make Sense." Here's
what I mean...

I believe:

1) Women make decisions very, very quickly about
whether a man is going to be "just a friend" or if
he has romantic potential, and once her decision
is made, it's probably going to stay made.

2) These decisions are made "subconsciously,"
meaning that women make all of them quickly and at
a "gut level."

3) If you know how, you make her feel attraction
feelings rather than "friend" feelings.

4) The way to do it is to stop acting "nice" and
start acting, well... something else... and I
don't mean "not nice."

   So what DOES attract women? And how do you do
it exactly?

   Good questions...

   At the beginning, I mentioned three qualities:
Funny, Confident, and Mysterious.

   Before I talk about each, I first have to
remind you that WOMEN DON'T USUALLY MAKE SENSE.
Remember that.

   Here's a good metaphor: Remember when you
learned to drive? It all made sense... turn the
wheel left and go left, turn it right and go
right...

   But do you remember when you learned to back
up? Backing up was a whole new game. Everything
that used to work now works in a different way. At
first you feel disoriented. Turn the wheel left
and go right... and you have to learn how to
maneuver with the back wheels staying straight
while the front wheels turn... all with your head
turned around.

   For most people, this takes some time and
practice. But once you "get it" then you can do it
anytime you want.

   Well, women are very similar. At first it's
very confusing. You have to try things that don't
seem to make sense. But once you get the hang of
it, then you see how it works and can make it
work... just like backing up a car.

   As much as many women would hate to admit it,
there's something very attractive about a man who
is just a little more confident than he should be.
And if you combine this with the right amount of
humor, you have a magic combination that will
charm almost any woman.

   Here are a few ways to use this idea:

1) When you first meet a woman, tease her about
something. It doesn't matter what it is, as long
as you do it early on. For instance, you might
say: "So what's with the big purse? Are you
carrying a gun in there?" or maybe "Those are some
pretty tall shoes, what are you like 4' tall
without them?" If you tease a woman, it shows that
you're not intimidated by her, and that you have a
fun sense of humor. KEY: Make sure you say
something FUNNY. If you don't know how to be
funny, get a book on it. The test: If she's not
laughing, then it wasn't funny!

2) Look around at other things and seem kind of
pre-occupied when you first start talking to her.
Make your funny remarks with a carefree, detached
tone. You want to sound like you're talking to
your best friend. Attractive women are approached
all the time. It's not attractive to a woman when
you look like you've just met Madonna. This "just
a little too confident" attitude is very
attractive to women... especially when it's
combined with humor.

3) Don't answer her questions directly. Women love
to ask questions like: "What do you do?" and
"Where do you live?" and "Tell me about your
family." Answer with funny answers, and don't give
her what she wants. Most guys say, "Oh, I'm an
engineer" or "I'm a stock broker." BORING,BORING.
If she asks what you do... say, "Oh, funny you
should ask. I'm a Calvin Klein Underwear Model...
What do you do?..." (This is especially funny if
it's OBVIOUS that you are NOT a model) Do you get
it? Keep it up and keep her laughing.

   It's important to remember that I'm not telling
you to be mean, or to be a jerk to women. I'm
telling you to start being confident, funny, and
mysterious.

Hey Dave!

I am an avid reader of your newsletters and
mailbags ...this stuff literally blew me away. I
also have your e-book. I had never seen or read
any other "dating expert" use the word
"attraction"...period! They never mention it in
anything they write yet it is the MOST IMPORTANT
thing that determines your success with women. Out
of literally dozens of articles and e-books from
so-called "dating pros", the word "attraction"
just doesn't ever come up! I even read in one e-
book that to attract women you need to get a
golden tan. I was like: "What the hell? That's not
the key to attracting women you dummy! Besides,
what if you cant tan?!!"

When attraction is imminent, women try to be with
you and chase you. If attraction is not there,
they make up excuses and try to avoid you. This is
so simple... yet so easy to understand but many
guys who haven't read your eBook miss this vital
point and thus waste time on women that aren't
interested! Attraction is EVERYTHING! That is why
anyone reading this that hasn't bought your e-book
or your Advanced CD series should do it
IMMEDIATELY! It's definitely worth the investment.
In fact it will pay you back over the rest of your
life because you will be so much better with
women! Don't pay hundreds of dollars or waste time
on the other material that's out there...buy
Dave's materials! Ok, Dave, I'm sure your head has
grown 10 times as big now and since I'm not
getting paid for making you a few extra sales, so
I'll quit now! But really, buy the stuff...it's
excellent! It's things in there you have never
heard of before that is so critical to your
failure or success with women!

Anyhow, that was my insight on how great your
material is...now I have a question about
something I read in your mailbag previously that
really stood out to me. It was the one about the
guy who said "Can I kiss you" to a woman that was
getting out of the car as he dropped her off. I
thought saying "Can I kiss you?" was wussified
behavior? That didn't sound like something you can
say without looking like a needy dork but the guy
said it worked for him and he got the kiss anyhow.
Did I miss something here? Explain that Dave.
Also, have you learned of any other "Kiss Tests"
like the one on your site?

GT from Nashville

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Well, thanks for the shameless advertisement
for my ebook and Advanced Series. I'm glad you're
having success with the material.

   I'd like to comment on your observation that
there's no one teaching guys about ATTRACTION...

   I noticed this exact same thing when I was
first learning about how to meet and date women.

   It took me probably two years of trying things
before I finally realized that there was something
else going on with women that NO ONE was talking
about. Finally, I realized that this magic
something was an EMOTION.

   Women don't meet men and say to themselves
"Well, he's my physical type, he has a good job,
he dresses himself pretty well, and he looks like
he's good in bed... I think I'll TURN ON MY
ATTRACTION for him..."

   No way.

   There's something that happens to a woman,
usually in an INSTANT, that sparks the "Chemistry"
or "Sexual Tension" or "Attraction." And then, if
the man knows how to build that tension and
AMPLIFY the EMOTION called ATTRACTION that the
woman is feeling, there's a very good chance that
they will get together.

   If, on the other hand, a man does NOT
understand this simple fact, and more importantly,
how ATTRACTION works, then no magic technique in
the world will work consistently for him.

   I've learned that ATTRACTION is EVERYTHING.

   SO WHY HASN'T ANYONE FIGURED THIS OUT?

   Well, I have a theory about that, too.

   In a nutshell, I think that because men are
sexually attracted primarily to LOOKS, they just
ASSUME that women must be the same way. We guys
just simply never take the time and energy to
figure out what women are actually attracted to...
so we act like failures with women... and they
treat us like failures.

   And many of the guys I DO know who are good
with women don't realize WHY what they do works so
well. They just do what they do, and women are
attracted to them. Most of them haven't taken the
time to figure out that what they're doing is
triggering the powerful emotion called ATTRACTION
inside of women.

   To finish my thought on this, you're right.

   No one talks about ATTRACTION... and that's a
problem, because if you don't "get" attraction,
then it's going to be hard to "get" women to be
interested in you.

   Now, you asked a question at the end of your
email.

   You wanted to know if the guy who asked, "Can I
kiss you?" was being a Wuss.

   OK, I'm about to share a VERY, VERY powerful
tool to use when you're interacting with women...

*** Before I share this secret, I want to mention
that if you want to get a SERIOUS education on the
topic of attraction, check out my eBook
"Attraction Isn't A Choice." You can download it
right here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AttractionBook 

   When I tell you what it is, you're probably
going to say, "That doesn't sound important"...
but IT IS.

   Trust me on this one.

   When you asked your question in the way that
you asked it, you indicated to me that you MISSED
WHAT WAS GOING ON. You missed the point of the
question.

   One of the things I tell guys to do is TEASE
women.

   Teasing can mean one of a couple of things.

   Teasing can mean starting to kiss her, then
stopping, starting, then stopping... over and over
again. In this context it's usually considered a
good, pleasurable thing.

   For instance, if you kiss a woman gently, then
pull away... then do it again... then again... and
you can tell that she wants more, but you're not
giving it to her, you're teasing her.

   Also, teasing can mean "poking fun".

   An example would be saying, "Wow, those are
some tall shoes. What, are you like three feet
tall without them?"

   Think of how you used to tease girls on the
school playground when you were a kid.

   That's a different kind of teasing.

   Now, BOTH kinds of teasing are great to use
with women who you have a romantic interest in...

   Let's talk about the "Can I kiss you?" example
for a minute.

   As you might remember, it went something like
this:

He waited for a moment when it was clear to him
that it would be OK to kiss her. She wanted it.
Then he said...

Him: "Can I kiss you?" Her: "Yes" Him: "OK, I'll
make sure to do that."

At this point, she said "Right"... and leaned in
to kiss HIM!

   What happened here?

   What happened was a little bit of GENIUS.
That's what happened.

   He was TEASING HER. He was doing something
that, at first glance was kind of Wuss/Nice Guy
thing to do. But remember, he had so much momentum
built up, that this little "slip" was perceived by
her as OK. In fact, he had so much momentum and
ATTRACTION built up that she WANTED IT.

   He says, "Can I kiss you?", she says, "Yes",
then he TEASES her by saying, "OK, I'll make sure
to do that."

   Yeah!

   In that moment, she realizes that his Wuss
behavior was actually a JOKE, and that he was
actually MESSING with her and teasing her.

   And at that point she leaned over and kissed
HIM.

   Now, let me share something that I made up that
I have used with women on many occasions...

   Let's say I'm out and I meet a girl walking
down the street, and I get her email and phone
number.

   We send a couple of emails back and forth, then
we get on the phone.

   Because I'm always teasing and busting balls, I
KNOW that she's enjoying it and interested in
me... so in that first phone conversation I'll
say:

Me: "You know, I was telling my mom about you
today" Her: "Really?" Me: 
"NO, you dork! Why would I tell my MOM about you?
Get over yourself!"

   Are you with me?

   Remember, I'm being charming, Cocky, Funny, and
unpredictable from the start... and I KNOW that
she's enjoying it. The tension is building, even
as we have our first phone conversation.

   So I then say something that just plain doesn't
fit ("I was telling my mom about you today?"). She
says, "Really?" in a half flattered/half surprised
way, wondering what's going on.

   I then pause to build up the suspense.

   As the pause is happening, and she's starting
to think to herself, "Uh oh, he really likes me",
I drop the "No, you dork! Why would I tell my MOM
about you? Get over yourself!" line.

   It's funny, confusing, and a HUGE tease.

   It usually gets a huge laugh... and it
communicates that I not only "get" what's going
on, but I'm so confident that I'll tease her about
it.

   Now, this is what you might call an "advanced"
move.

   If you don't know how to tell if a woman is
attracted to you, how to spark attraction, how to
amplify the attraction, and how to move from one
step to the next, you're just going to sound like
a dumb ass when you say something like this...
because you'll say it at the wrong time, or you'll
say it to a woman who isn't very interested in
you... which will make things WORSE instead of
better.

   I hope you hear what I'm saying.

   One of the GREATEST things you can learn is how
to use SUBTLE humor with women to IMPLY what
you're thinking without actually SAYING it
directly.

   As I say in my ebook, "Double Your Dating" and
in my Advanced CD/DVD Program, men take things
literally and women are always interpreting...
they're always trying to figure out what
everything you're saying and doing "REALLY MEANS".

   Communicating with women on a "sexual" level is
a skill that you must learn and develop... and
thankfully ANY man can learn how.

   Once you learn this new "language," you'll
start to experience women in a whole new way.
You'll be sending and receiving signals in a
language that you never even knew about.

   And it's FUN!

   And the best part is that WOMEN WILL REALLY
APPRECIATE and ENJOY the fact that you actually
know how to communicate with them.

By the simple fact that you are reading this right
now, I know one thing is for sure:

You want to improve your success with women.

And here’s one thing YOU know for sure:

There is a BIG difference between WANTING to have
more success with women... and ACTUALLY MAKING IT
HAPPEN.

I can remember when I reached the point in my 
life where I decided that I needed to get this part
of my life called “meeting women” handled.

I won’t bore you with the details, but I was
going through a time where I had just moved to a
new city... I was single... and I had NO IDEA how
to meet women or get dates. One night I was
talking to one of my best friends and I said, “I
am going to figure this out for myself, no matter
what it takes”.

Well, it wasn’t exactly easy to “figure it out”.
I spent the next few years reading a lot of books,
listening to “motivational tapes”, going to seminars,
and generally trying out a lot of whacky ideas that
I was learning.

Let me say that again, in a different way:

I spent several YEARS reading and studying every
piece of material on dating I could get my hands on.
Maybe you can relate.

Here’s something you might also be able to
relate to:

After all of those years of study, I was still
far FAR away from having the success with women
that I wanted.

In fact, I wasn’t very much further along the
path than when I STARTED.

But then... something INCREDIBLE happened...
almost by accident.

Within just a few short months, I was able to
“crack the code”... and began meeting more women
and getting more dates than ever before... with
HIGHER-QUALITY women than I had ever met in my
entire life.

Looking back, the reason for my breakthrough
is painfully obvious... although I couldn't see
it at the time.

>>> The real “break” came when I started meeting
and hanging out with guys that were ALREADY GOOD
WITH WOMEN.

I’m talking about guys who were either
“naturals”, or had taken years of their time to
figure it all out on their own.

To make a long story short, almost as soon as 
I began actively seeking these guys out and
making friends with them, I started making RAPID
progress.

My “old” friends couldn’t believe my success,
and at first, neither could I.

There is just something about learning directly
from someone who has “been there” that is
INCOMPARABLE.

I don’t care if you’re trying to learn how to
make money, get in better shape, or become more
successful with women.

There is simply no better way to GUARANTEE 
your success than by learning DIRECTLY from
someone who has already mastered the skill you
want to learn. No amount of stumbling around on 
your own can substitute.

The Challenge Of Learning From The Best

Unfortunately, when you set out to learn from
guys who are already good with women, you tend to
run into 3 big problems:

1. Guys who are great with women are very RARE

2. Guys who are great with women are very BUSY
with all of the women in their lives

3. Guys who are great with women generally don’t
want to spend their time teaching a guy they don’t
know how to do something that to them is as simple 
as using a knife and fork... at least not for free.

But now, fortunately... there is a simple 
solution...

One of the biggest benefits I’ve enjoyed of
getting into the “business” of helping guys to become 
more successful with women has been that I now get to 
personally meet these rare men who are great with
women on almost a DAILY BASIS.

I really feel like the little kid who gets to 
go in the dugout at the All-Star game. I now get
to meet all of my “heroes” and learn their 
secrets... and I can't even begin to tell you how
valuable it’s been.

Several years ago, I began setting up 
interviews with the BEST of these experts, and
recording them to make them available to guys who
were serious about getting results with women FAST.

I’m talking guys who charge THOUSANDS of dollars 
for their time, and people pay it because they get 
RESULTS.

These guys are real-life experts who know the secret 
psychology of attraction inside and out...

These guys have developed and field tested their 
methods and have worked out ALL of the kinks... so
that YOU are receiving the absolute BEST advice 
possible.

They answer the questions that are absolutely 
CRITICAL to your success... questions like:

How do you build attraction in a woman QUICKLY?

How do you keep a woman’s attention focused on
you?

How do you approach and talk to a woman without
rejection?

What are the tips and secrets to successfully 
meeting Women online?

How can you get a woman’s number or email address
FAST?

How can you take things to a physical level, and NOT 
get shot down?

What do you do when a woman doesn’t return your 
phone call... or flakes on a date?

... and many, many more questions on EVERY ASPECT
of meeting women and creating attraction.