***QUESTION***

whatsup dr dave,

let me start out by saying you are my savior. I've
been getting your newsletters for about a month
now, and WOW! thank you. my question is: i work
in a restaurant. needless to say there are quite a
few 8s,9s and even a few 10s working there.
approaching and talking to them is not a problem.
but i feel i should be careful when asking one of
them to join me for beer after work. i don't want
to bring any feelings of uncomfortableness between
us (if shes not interested). what would you
recommend i do and what should i say?

t indy

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   The first thing to remember is that when you
"ask a woman out," you IMMEDIATELY start a whole
chain of mental and emotional events for a woman.

   She has to decide if she "likes you" and if
there could ever be anything between the two of
you... and if she's thirsty and interested in free
beer.

   You get my drift.

   Women know when you're asking them "out out,"
as in you're asking them because you have a
"romantic interest."

   Guess what?

   When you do this, it ALSO puts the woman in the
driver's seat in the situation because she
instantly realizes that she has something you
want. Have you ever heard of "wanting it tax?"
It's when the price goes up the more you want it.

   Now, as you probably know, I don't generally
think that it's such a great idea to date women
you WORK with, because you never know what's going
to happen, and the last thing you need is losing
your job or having to work for hours at a time in
an uncomfortable situation.

   And besides, attractive women usually have
attractive FRIENDS, and if you're cool, the women
you work with can lead to an endless supply of
dates. Think it over.

   You might want to think of it as a goose that
lays golden eggs.

   Even though I don't advise dating women you
work with, I still want to address your basic
question of asking a woman out without creating
discomfort...

   Remember, most guys do the exact same things.
They start talking to a woman, then say, "Hey, can
I take you out sometime?" or "Do you have a
boyfriend?"

   This stuff is HORRIBLE.

   It does exactly the wrong thing. It makes you
look like a wuss boy that needs a girlfriend. And
if she's not interested (which she probably won't
be), then it WILL create some discomfort in the
future.

   MUCH BETTER TO TEST FIRST, THEN TAKE A SMALL
STEP.

   If it's a woman you know, tease her, bust on
her, and generally act like you don't care. Make a
comment about her and walk away. Be Cocky & Funny
when you're with her, and don't be boring.

   Then, if she's responding positively (laughing,
hitting you, telling you that you're a pain,
etc.), then say, "Hey, do you have email?"

   If she does, have her write it down, then say,
"Bye".

   From a MAN'S perspective this might not seem
any different than just asking a woman out.

   But, from the WOMAN'S perspective it's VERY
different.

   First of all, you've never shown her any
romantic interest, which doesn't give up your
power in the situation, and hand it all to her.

   Secondly, instead of putting "dating" pressure
on her, you've only asked her for her email
address (and maybe her number as well).

   But you HAVEN'T asked her on a date, you
HAVEN'T created any kinds of weird vibes in the
air, and you HAVE made her wonder what you have in
mind.

   It's powerful, think about it.

***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Hey There,

Ok So I am a butch lesbian who has recently
subscribed to your mailbag. Ok I am totally
fascinated by you and what u have to say. I am
planning on getting your book next week actually.
I have used your tips about getting the phone
numbers by asking the girl if they have email. Ok
that works like a charm, i haven't yet not got a
phone number. So Just to let you know, you advice
works for butch lesbians too! ok but here is my
prob. I met this girl and i got her email addy,
phone number and s/n. Well I didn't want to be
like everyone else and call her so i sent her an
instant message. Well finally she wanted to call
me. My response was I hope your not a stalker,
trying to be funny and cute. Well she called and
we talked forever, i couldn't get the girl off the
phone. Now she calls me like 5 times a day. She
really likes me, she has admitted it and she broke
up with her g/f so she could see where things go
with me. I like her a lot and i want to see where
things go, but her ex is a threat to me and her ex
might want her back. I've also made the mistake of
telling her i like her, so I'm thinking she may
become "in control." My question is what do I do
next? Meaning how do i get that control back, do i
continue acting like i want her, or should i talk
about other girls? Also what about the ex? do i
make it a threat or what. Also she is jealous b/c
her best friend also likes me. Anyways, any advice
u may have for me, i would appreciate it.

Much Appreciation CNS Georgia

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   This is great.

   You know, if I PAID people to write this stuff
it couldn't possibly be this good.

   I have this secret lesbian fan base that only
breaks the silence occasionally when the situation
gets really critical. Love it.

   OK, here are a couple of thoughts:

1) If she has an ex who's in the picture, keep
your distance and make her pursue you.

   I have PERSONALLY made the mistake of acting
CLINGY when an ex turns up in the picture and
tries to get a woman back.

   It's generally not a good idea.

   The best thing you can do is what you're
already doing... tease her and let her pursue YOU.

   If she's busy pursuing you, she'll be thinking
about you, wondering what you're doing, wondering
why you're so busy, etc., and won't have the
attention for the ex.

   On the other hand, if you start pursuing HER,
then she'll have to "decide between which one she
wants."

   Not a good position to put yourself in. And
it's MUCH less interesting for her as well.

2) If her friend also likes you, that can be a
GOOD thing.

   Jealousy is a very interesting emotion.

   It's not something you want to use to
manipulate another person, but if the situation
creates it naturally, that's another thing
entirely.

   If you have someone who is interested in you,
and that person knows that others are also
interested, it only makes them like you more.

   ...You know, someday I'm going to have to do a
Double Your Dating LESBIAN SUMMIT, so I can be
stuck in some resort somewhere with 100 lesbian
women who need dating advice.

   I would have to say something male and
insensitive like that, wouldn't I?

***QUESTION***

David,

I've been reading your weekly newsletters, and I
decided to take the plunge and get your online
book.

It's got some great information, and some tips
that I haven't thought of. I found myself already
doing a lot of things covered, and I guess I'm
pretty pleased that I needed much less training
than I thought I did.

But I do have this question, and it's not covered
in your books, and it continues to stump me. I've
added a bit of extraneous information, so you have
a good picture of what happens.

A quick note of background, I was raised by my
mother, and like many men like that, I can be
pretty effeminate. Frankly, most of the time, that
isn't a problem as I have found, more often than
not, as long as you're confident, girls will just
go on; if anything, it confuses the hell out of
them, because it's very easy for me to play the
friend role in the coffee shop, while also
flirting with them. In fact, it's very disarming
(and it allows me a greater understanding of girls
than most guys have, and has helped me quite a
lot.)

Usually (but not always) girls I meet are off the
internet, and what happens every single time is
this: I meet them and then within three to five
hours they're in my bed, or we're in my car making
out. Some of this is due to confidence, some
because of the cocky/funny thing, some of this is
because I am disarming and I make them feel
relaxed. I don't have sex with them, I'm a virgin,
it's just a personal choice, and I will add that
all the girls I've ever been with except for one
were *not* virgins, and in two or three occasions,
I've had to refuse a hard sex sell.

So after we're done making out, I take them home,
everything seems fine.

Then the next day, they don't want anything to do
with me. They do want to be friends (most of the
time) but they don't really even want to talk to
me on the phone or see me in person again. They
definitely don't want to date again.

Sometimes I get a reason why (only once or twice
has that reason been "we're moving too fast" or
its variant "I'm really confused and I don't know
what to do.") One time I got the response that I'm
"too different" another time, in a situation which
happened with a girl who lived out of state, and
therefore I really wasn't trying to date, I later
found out that I made her "feel dirty." The
answers are all different, and yet they (usually)
seem to have a universal confusion that binds
them.

And for the most part, I'm hard wired for a long
term relationship, so this is all depressing to me
that I'm essentially having lots of little one
night stands. I've theorized that it may be
because I'm moving too fast, but is that concept
real? Is it because I lead them on so much and
then I finally refuse them?

Your book is entirely about seducing them, and I'm
successful doing that; but for some reason, we
part, they go back and think about things for a
bit, and I can't do it a second time because they
want very little to do with me. (It happens
quickly too...I've woken up to emails saying "I'm
sorry to tell you this...but...")

Anyway, your thoughts are appreciated,

J

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Wow, yeah... I really feel your pain.

   You've learned how to make women want to make
out with you and have sex within a few hours of
meeting... BUT YOU'RE NOT INTERESTED IN SEX... and
then they don't call you back.

   Will someone please give this guy a medal for
dumbest question of all time?

   I think you might want to go read some "Mars
and Venus" books or something. Try buying women
things, or maybe paying for lots of dinners or
something.

   lol... I think you're going to figure it all
out.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

First off, I want to tell you how amazing your
stuff is! (I'm sure you already know) It's really
changed my life. I feel great about myself! I
never realized how much of a wuss I was until
after reading your book. lol...I laugh at how
stupid I was. I am now able to talk to women and
feel completely confident about myself. It's
great!

Anyways, I was on a double date the other night
and I decided to try some of your techniques. I
noticed that just by acting like you are in
control of yourself, gets you far. I had my date
feeling as though she wasn't good enough for me,
and my friends date was even hitting on me. I
could not believe it. However, I had trouble
coming up with some C&F things to say. How do you
know what to say and when to say it? I want to
master this! What do you suggest to further this
skill?

A, UT

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   OK, let me see if I understand your situation.

   You read my book, realized you were a wuss,
STOPPED being a wuss, STARTED getting great
results, and now you want to know what I suggest
to further your skills?

Sit down and take an hour of your life to WRITE
DOWN the 10 most common situations you find
yourself in with women, then come up with 3 great
Cocky & Funny lines for each situation.

   Finally, practice them in your mind, and in the
real world until they feel natural.

   PRACTICE.

***QUESTION***

Hello Dave, This is T., I just ordered and
received your CD's and I'm ready to roll, I just
want to let you know my current situation, not
once have i dated someone who I was really
attracted to, clicked with, and who was
emotionally stable, I'm 27 years old and all my
friends are dating descent looking women and
moving on in their relationships, They tried
setting me up with a few people, but they were all
nasty looking, and they tell me that I'm very
picky and that i should learn to "like someone for
who they are" which i think is pure bullsh**, to
me, attraction is very important or else i can't
date the person, I know I'm a good-looking guy and
I can do just as good and better once I gain the
tools from your CD's, I have a problem with being
"nice," instead of cocky, ball-busting, and
mysterious, like all my other friends, the few
girls that I've dated that i found attractive
always stopped calling me and I simply don't know
why, i simply don't have the positive qualities
that the "jerk" has, i simply don't know how to
approach someone who's attractive and carry on a
good conversation, will the cd's turn all that
around for me? hope this email isn't too long, if
it is, I'll keep it shorter next time.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   The short answer is: YES. DEFINITELY.

   By the way, WHAT THE HECK ARE YOU DOING SAYING:

"...hope this email isn't too long, if it is, I'll
keep it shorter next time..."

   That's WUSSY TALK.

   Are you with me?

   Next time you write me, and you think your
email might be a little too long just say, "If
this email is too long for you to include in your
newsletter, let me know and I'll edit it."

   Don't say things like, "hope this email isn't
too long."

   Subtle things communicate so much.

   EVICT THE INNER WUSSY!

***QUESTION***

David, I have used your C&F stuff with amazing
success, but theres one area of difficulty I have
encountered. I'm a freshman in college and I talk
to A LOT of girls. Almost all of the girls I've
talked to are very nice and seem very interested
and love the C&F attitude. I get their AOL
Instant Messenger names and their e-mails and all
but the problem is that some of them, even though
they had a fun time talking with me and they spent
a lot of time with me initially, they block me and
ignore me and I don't understand why. I've asked
ALL of them why but they don't respond to me and
they look at me weird and shyly. But I say and do
the same thing with them as I do with others who
don't block me and who just completely love me. I
just don't get it. I thought that maybe I
intimidated them or something. Help me David Help
Meee!!!

-c

(btw your stuff is incredible...I have 10x the
confidence and ability to get dates with women
than I ever had in the past, thanks man!)

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   lol... calm down. You're making me nervous.

   You sound like you need to chill out and relax.

   If you're getting BLOCKED on instant messenger,
then you're probably being just a TAD too pushy
with these women.

   Lean back.

   Tease.

   Make a comment online then say, "I have to
run"...

   Don't act like you want her attention.

   RELAX.

   And did I mention that you need to RELAX?

   Did you hear the story about the old bull and
the young bull standing on the hill?

   The young bull says, "Hey, let's RUN down there
and have sex with one of them cows!"

   Old bull looks at him and says, "Let's WALK
down there and have sex with ALL of them."

   Ponder. Reflect. Repeat.

***QUESTION***

Let me preface this by saying that I agree 100%
with your ideas. I realized the cocky and funny
principles in high school, when I noticed a good
friend got laid constantly because he just
naturally had that routine down. He always laughed
about it - the less he appeared to care about
getting laid, the more he got laid. Pure magic.

But I'm just curious if there are women who are
actually turned off by the cocky and funny
routine. I've always liked smart, nerdy girls -
the librarian archetype - and I'm a little leery
that these women might not be so impressed with
the C&F. Nobody likes a wuss, of course, but I'm
wondering about the women who aren't so easily
manipulated. How about some failure stories? When
doesn't this stuff work so well, and are there
things to watch for to keep from going too far
with it?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   First of all, Cocky & Funny isn't a super-
secret, covert manipulation tactic. It's a way of
flirting, teasing, and interacting with women in a
way that they enjoy.

   Secondly, I've found that the only women who
DON'T respond well to it are women who are
UPTIGHT, women who aren't at all interested, or
overly SHY women who are intimidated (in which
case you can usually just tone it down and have
fun with them, too).

   That's my personal experience.

   Smart, nerdy girls like the ones you're
attracted to (I'm glad you have that market
cornered, by the way) should LOVE to spar with you
and will probably LOVE your Cocky & Funny
attitude. Keep it intellectual.

   There will ALWAYS be situations in life when
things don't work for you.

   Tiger Woods screws up a lot of shots, and he's
the best in the world at golf.

   Michael Jordan misses a lot of shots, and he's
the best in the world at BBall.

   We don't live in an ideal testing lab, we live
in reality.

   Don't worry about what won't work, and find
what will.

   The thing to watch for to keep from going too
far with Cocky & Funny is a woman getting VISIBLY
ANGRY or asking you to leave. If that happens,
walk away.

***COMMENT***

Hey Dave

Here comes a big thank you. Your material is
unbelievable/ amazing/
your fave thesaurus here>. Just wanted to clue you
in on what you've done for me and how you've
healed the social leper (at least with girls) that
was me.

Bit of background: I'm short, stocky, average
looks but I can be funny. The "funny nice guy" got
me places, but trouble was, I was a major wimp
when it came to women. The Sub-Standard "Mom's
brainwashing" owns up at this point. I'd stumbled
my way through school and early twenties, slowly
but surely improving my appearance and myself from
no-hoper to "in-with-a-chance -if-he'd-only-open-
his-mouth" type guy. Last Christmas I got lucky
with a girl I'd dreamed about at work. And when I
say I got lucky, I mean she seemed to fancy me
too. Well in early October this year, after losing
her completely to the Mystery that is Women's
Attraction, I was at the end of my tether. I'd go
home after parties seriously annoyed that I got
nowhere, ragging on at myself for missing my
chances. I was losing my will to live,
metaphorically at least.

Anyway, did a search on the net, found your stuff,
and downloaded your ebook the same day. Read it,
and immediately realized what I'd done wrong with
that girl. Mentally, committed myself to give up
on the memory of her and moved on. That evening,
went out to a club with friends and applied your
principles (well what I could remember anyway) and
did SO well I was a new man. UNTIL I got a little
too drunk and turned WIMP again and spilled out
how I thought this girl there (a friend) was
amazing etc. She literally hid from me the rest of
the night. hahaha.

So fast forward to now: The Wussbag side of me has
been consigned to a berth on S.S. Titanic, and I
have had 6's and 7's throwing themselves at me
these last couple of months. I'm moving up the
food chain slowly but surely. Cheers for sorting
my head/life/etc. out and helping me towards being
able to look myself in the eye in the mirror
again.

Some wise person once said "If you wanna get
loaded quick, start a religion". Well Dave, looks
like you've inadvertently done that.

Cheers

MJ London

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   What, no gifts for me?

   Yeah, you gotta be careful with that alcohol
stuff.

   It can loosen you up, but it can just as easily
make you act like a dumb ass in the worst way.

   Great job, and thanks for the email.

   Isn't it great that we regular guys can have
success with women...? Love it.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Ok, for everyone reading this now.. GET DAVID D's
BOOK NOW!! and his CD/DVD's too!! Dave, you are
the man! I've never in my entire life had this
much success in the last 6-8 months. Case-in-point
I met this girl, about 8.5, and when we first met
I was a young jedi.. lol I had only just bought
your book and was a novice. So I became Cap'n
Wussy..lol And she said she just wanted to be
friends, so I moved on like you say. Well we have
been friends ever since, we occasionally hang out
and I would push the C+F attitude to the hilt. The
would love it, she called me an ass, smartass,
etc. Well she calls me here reverently to tell me
she now has feelings for me, and she doesn't
understand why.. of course you and I know
why..hehehe.. Supposedly it happened when we went
to a movie together, I was basically treating her
like my bratty little sister. Now she wants me and
says she can't stop thinking about me, she called
me a bastard cause she can't stop thinking about
me.. Damn, man you teach some powerful stuff.. I
told her some stuff about other women, not that
I'm dating but who have came on to me and she got
jealous, I wasn't trying to make her jealous.
Dude, I'm attracting her and I swear I'm not even
trying!! I just wanna date around and have fun,
hell I'm in a band and have dreams of being a rock
star so I'm not planning on settling down soon..
Anyway, you are truly a Jedi Master!!...

-bassman in oh

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Well, the good news is that even if you don't
hit it big and BECOME a rock star, you can still
ATTRACT WOMEN like a rock star!

   Nice. Good work.

   And I really like the new word "supposedly."

***QUESTION***

Dave;

I've never wrote into one of these before, but
after reading some of your stuff and putting it to
the test I wanted to commend you on your C & F
technique... Good Stuff!

Since I'm on winter break right now I've only got
a chance to try it out online. It's been going
great and I've been getting good responses, but I
can't figure out how to close the deal. I know
you said that you want to get the woman on the
phone as soon as possible, but all I've been
getting is a couple e-mails a day from this one
that I'm trying to bag. She is a definite 9.5-10
and without a doubt interested in me, I just can't
get her to close the deal and contact me on the
phone or give me her number. What should I do?

C

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   "BAG"?

   "CLOSE THE DEAL"?

   I'd first recommend that you stop thinking
about "bagging" and "closing the deal" and start
thinking about how you can make her feel
ATTRACTION.

   If a woman feels ATTRACTION for you, then the
"bagging" will take care of itself. Are you with
me here?

   Also, STOP FOCUSING TOO MUCH ENERGY ON ONE
WOMAN.

   If you're just dating women right now, NEVER
put too much importance on one woman... ESPECIALLY
one that you've never even talked to.

   Meet other women.

   Go out.

   And get your mind of off "closing" and
"bagging."

   That's needy, user talk.

***QUESTION***

Hi I have a 2" of beard and I wanted to ask would
your e-book help a guy with beard in the same way
as any other guy, even though I keep it well
groomed. Thanks

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Yes, gentle reader, this is a real question
from a real person.

   My answer:

   No. This stuff will absolutely not work for
you.

   I'd recommend that you trim the beard to one
and seven-eighths inches, and keep it slightly
less well-groomed.

   That should do the trick, and all of my
concepts will then work for you.

***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

Hey Dave,

Gotta tell you first of all that I'm a girl and
accidentally was subscribed to your newsletter by
a well meaning 'friend'. I found it interesting
reading about how guys are so hung up on
attracting women, going on dates and stuff. Do
forgive me I have not read your ebook Double your
dating stuff, no offence, it's just that I'm
married with kids and dating other men (apart from
my husband) is not something I'd be thrilled
about.

Anyway, I just wanted to comment on some stuff I
read in your newsletter. Here's your first hand
girlie response. It is NOT true that "once you're
in a "NO" category it's hard to get out no matter
how good your game is. Personally there were a few
guys that I've assigned to a NO category at first
and ended up dating later, my husband being one of
them. Most of my girl friends would tell you the
same. And it doesn't matter what kind of
characteristic would send a guy into the NO
category - too young, too old, too skinny, too
short, too poor, big nose, big ears, too boring,
too depressing, etc etc etc you name it. None of
it matters, at least it never mattered for me, no
matter how much I tried to make myself think
rationally. It all depends on how manly you are.
And different women have different ideas on that,
if you match most of those or at least some, it
doesn't matter if she put you in the No category
at first. Women change their mind often, as you
probably have noticed. While writing this email to
you I've changed my mind at least 3 times as to
whether I should send it or not. LOL. One last
thing - having a lot of women in your life is not
a very noble purpose for a man's life. Being a
better person and a better man is, and if you
manage to make it a priority in your life, then
beautiful, intelligent and lovable women will be
all over you in an instant. At least I find it
true in my life and in the life of my friends all
over the world. R VL

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Again, I couldn't have paid someone to write
something better.

NOTICE TO ALL MEN:

   If you want to attract a WIFE AND KIDS, and you
want a woman who changes her mind three times
before even FINISHING an email, then take the
above advice.

   My favorite:

"Having a lot of women in your life is not a very
noble purpose for a man's life."

   Yeah, you're right.

   Having a lot of women in your life SUCKS when
you're a man.

   Thanks for your email.

***QUESTION***

My first every try of your wisdom. I got a phone
call with a girl ringing about my car. My mate saw
who she was and began chatting her up. Then i got
on the phone and gave it a speal, and told her to
contact me for a test drive and I would show her
the ropes.

The next day i got a phone call from her again.
she never liked the car but asked me if i used the
phone number to help pick-up! I put it back onto
her and told her that she called me and was
picking me up. she never denied it. two days later
i rang her and told her i was coming her way and
would like to partake in her favorite meal and
coffee. was Thursday or Friday best. Sure enough i
got the date. my first ever time I've asked a girl
out, and she ended up being a 5'10" leggy blonde
who did modeling and was studying law! CATCH!

Thanks for the confidence boost C - Australia

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   You know, the language barrier might exist, but
the communication is LOUD AND CLEAR.

   Nice work.

***QUESTION***

Dave, I have your ebook and your Advance Audio CDs
and my success with women has dramatically
increased. I used to get nervous around attractive
women and would act like a complete wuss. Now I am
able to remain confident and in control, and
sometimes I notice women blush or act nervous when
I talk to them.

My problem comes when I am having a conversation
with a woman. It seems like I am only able to talk
about relatively boring things like, "how's school
going?", "what did you do last weekend?", etc.. It
is hard for me to incorporate the C&F attitude
when I am not in that fun, easy going state of
mind. I can never think of anything that I could
bust her balls on. If I am in the right setting
and atmosphere, like at a party, it is easier for
me to pull off the C&F attitude all night. I do
notice that once I make a comment that gets a
woman to laugh, it's all good from that moment on.
What kind of C&F comments can I make when first
meeting a woman to get into the flow of things?
Should I focus on her physical attributes or
something else when making that first C&F comment?

Thanks MP Louisville, KY

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   The FIRST thing you need to do is LISTEN TO THE
CD PROGRAM AGAIN.

   It's more important that you just RELAX and get
rid of your INSECURITIES than ANYTHING ELSE!

   Cocky & Funny is important, but it's MORE
important that you practice the body language and
voice tone exercises in that program, and you
learn how to project the types of beliefs and self
image that attracts women.

   Don't worry as much about the techniques.

   The body language and attitude are FAR more
important for you at this stage.

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave, I have to say I'm the biggest wussie
you'll ever meet! I mean I can even get the nerves
to order your seminar, which I truly want to
order.

I just got out of a 13yr. marriage a year ago and
I really want to get back out into the dating
world and have fun like the rest of the guys. The
problem is that I can't break out of this wussie
shell that I'm in. I Don't know how to give myself
courage to approach women without my subconscious
mind wussing out.I've read all of your dating
tips, and they sound great, but I'm still in
confusion on starting a conversation with a women
and keeping it alive. I have to admit that I'm one
of those quiet guys that don't say to much unless
I know a women likes me, then I can talk my ass
off, then after all said and done I still wussed
out on asking her for a phone number, or a date. I
desperately need your help to get me back in the
dating world, and if you can't help me then I
don't think anybody can. Do you have any advice to
get me out of this wussie stage so I can get back
out into the dating world, and to purchase your
dating seminar? Do you have any seminars coming to
Minnesota?

thanx K.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Please follow these instructions:

1) Find a strong, buff friend.

2) Ask him to BITCH SLAP you.

   Repeat until you can stop acting like a girl.

   I would recommend that you invest in my
Advanced Series, but I don't want to confuse and
upset you.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

You are the man!!! I have been receiving your
newsletters for about 4 months now, and plan to
get your book as soon as I get some legal issues
taken care of. I gotta say that your stuff works
wonders. Here is my example; I was at the
laundromat earlier today, and I just happened to
run across a girl I went to High School with. I
have changed a lot since the, and she didn't
recognize me. I couldn't resist the temptation
.....this was a girl who blow me off back then. I
walked up to her and started talking. Nothing
much, busting on her for coming in with her mom
..... "You still living with Mommy I see." Stuff
like that. So, after a few minutes, I tell her I
have to go finish up my clothes. I walk away
without saying a word. While I'm standing there
folding my clothes, I glance up a few times and
watch her looking at me. Every time I look up, I
give her this sly little half-cocked grin and she
jerks her head away. I finish up and go to leave,
giving her only that little grin as I'm going, and
walk out to my car. Right before I start the car,
she's running out with a slip of paper in her
hand. Its her number. Like I said before, this was
a girl who wouldn't even look my way 4 years ago.

Okay now.....here's my question.....Normally I
couldn't approach a girl like I did this one. I
get up to them, say hi, then I freeze......once I
can get into the c&f routine its no
problem......but a lot of times, I find it hard to
get into it.......Got any pointers for me?

FC Kentucky

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Oh, I LOVE THIS STORY!

   Don't you wish you could turn back the hands of
time and have another chance with all those hot
girls that ran around your high school... the ones
that wouldn't even look at you?

   I'm pretending that I'm you right now, and it's
great.

   To answer your question, don't worry too much
about being Cocky & Funny when you first meet a
girl that you've never talked to... one that
you've just approached.

   The only thing you need to focus on is getting
her info so you can follow up later.

   Use the 3 minute email/number technique, and
don't worry about being Cocky & Funny until you
get together with her next.

   Trying to come up with cute lines when you
first meet a girl usually makes you self-
conscious. Just get her info!

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

I recently ordered your CD series and I have to
tell you that it was totally amazing. I am calling
it amazing due to the lack of words that can
describe/praise the series. I have had your book
for about a year now. When I got the book, it was
a big eye opener and I felt like taking the book
and hitting myself over the head with it {I used
to be a big WUSS}. I thought nothing could be
better than that but you proved me wrong by
releasing the CD series which is absolutely
untouchable!

I have read your book many times and have heard
the CD series about five times. EVERYTIME I hear
it again I hear something that I failed to
hear/note/realize before. I have decided not to
listen to any other tape, CD or radio till I have
this stuff so ded in my subconscious mind
that it becomes second nature. For this I would
also like to make a suggestion to all of the other
readers. There is a saying: "IT IS NOT ENOUGH TO
LEARN YOU MUST BECOME". I have realized many times
that I act and behave normal when I am around
friends Or women that I am not interested in. BUT
as soon as a hottie comes around, I try to switch
to the personality and character that you have
taught most of the times I succeed BUT there are
many times when it is hard to so SUDDENLY change.
IF YOU STAY IN THAT CHARACTER ALL THE TIME, YOU
DON'T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT SWITCHING GEARS. OVER
THE PERIOD OF TIME IT WILL BECOME YOUR REAL
CHARACTER AND SECOND NATURE IT WILL ALSO GET YOU
MORE RESPECT FROM FAMILY AND FRIENDS.

I also realized that BODY LANGUAGE is 93 or
better percentage of the communication. BUT have
not seen you RECOMMEND A BOOK ON BODY LANGUAGE. I
went to the library and Borders and found a lot of
books in fact, too many! Can you suggest a couple
on Body language? Thanks in advance. Thanks! PG
Ohio

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Thanks for your email.

   I love it when I hear from guys who are taking
action, and getting this part of their lives
together!

   Unfortunately, I haven't been able to find ANY
books about body language that I consider to be
GREAT.

   And worse, most of the books I've read about on
body language teach you NOTHING useful about
ATTRACTION.

   You might check out some books on body language
at that bookstore... But unless you understand
all the things you've learned from my Advanced
Series, it won't all make very much sense.

***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***

Hey David D!

Who says there's no such thing as magic? When it
comes to women, cocky+funny is PURE 100% magic. It
is one of the major keys to getting her making her
comfortable with you, to getting her number, to
getting the date, kissing, getting laid,
EVERYTHING! Your stuff is pure platinum my man!
Looking back on mailbags from over a year ago, I
still shake my head and say: "Man, this guy is
good. I cant wait 'till I am able to pull off
those lines like that!" The lines are so funny and
with cockiness, it just blows them away! Every
time
you do it, you can just FEEL the women responding
to you in a positive way and not trying to ignore
you or get away from you when you act like a wuss-
bag. They are always laughing and smiling and even
THEY tend to get touchy-feely, asking me for MY
number and then calling ME (of course, I always
get their numbers too) or asking me to call them,
asking me when we're going out, and even asking ME
for sex. I could not believe it! And often, this
could happen within minutes or hours of
meeting...not weeks, months, or years like I once
thought it took. I suggest all guys especially the
skeptics out there to get your stuff. It works!

What I LOVE is how you say making it look like as
if a woman is picking YOU up. It sure takes the
pressure off of the situation. It's all in the
mind set. You are not nervous because you know she
wants you and is trying to get you...not the other
way around. Then you act accordingly. Here's just
a few of the lines I use:

"Look, just because you're being sweet to me
doesn't mean I'm going to sleep with you. What?
You
thought I was THAT easy? Common!"

(with women at work or women working somewhere)
"How can you possibly get any work done when
you're flirting with me all the time? I know I'm a
stud and all but if you lose your job, don't think
I'm going to support you!"

(after seeing a woman) "I know we had fun, but
please don't become a stalker and call me 50 times
a day or else I'll have the cops pay you a visit
with a restraining order in hand!"

(If a woman hints at sex or sometimes I'll bring
it up)

"I don't know if I could have sex with you...what
if you could only last 2 minutes? I don't know if
you can even kiss...I tell you what, I'll THINK
about it" (then I kiss her)

(cocky+funny for a common situation)

Her: "How are you?"

Me: "Well, I've been told I'm pretty damn good!"
with a 'wink'

(If a woman walks past me)

Me: "What are you doing" (or where are you going?)

Her: "I'm going to such and such or I'm doing such
and such"

Me: "You're a lousy liar......It's really
ok to admit you were just trying to get a look at
me... and as long as you're not a stalker, I may
give you a chance!"

(If she makes fun of herself) Her: "I'm such a
retard" or "My hair looks awful" or "My lipstick
doesn't look good does it?"

Me: "Well, I didn't want to say anything!" lol
"But
I think those guys over there were thinking
'What's
her problem? She's so clueless!"

OR

Her: "My hair looks bad doesn't it?" (or any other
line where she makes fun of herself)

Me: "You can say that again!" (with a playful
tone)

I love it! I love it! With this type of
communication, they react SO differently! A lot of
times, they will break down and admit they DO like
me! And this keeps you out of the "lets just be
friends" category and reduces the number of fake
numbers and blow-offs you get from women. It also
keeps you from appearing "TOO NICE". AND I don't
have to CHASE them anymore! It's a wonderful
feeling. Now on the other hand, what if you said:

"I bet you have a boyfriend, right?"

"Hey baby, you're so beautiful!"

"Can I take you out sometime?"

"Oh, baby, there's nothing wrong with you! You're
gorgeous!"

AH! David, just like you say...THIS STUFF IS
TERRIBLE! Wuss, kiss-ass behavior at its best!

It's so lame, so boring, and so wussie, and so
blah! Using cocky+funny, we can have more fun
without sounding like a loser plus women respond
1,000,000% times better with cocky+funny. Probably
only 1-2% of the male population know what
cocky+funny is and probably half of those do it
without realizing it. This type of communication
is DIFFERENT from what MOST guys do which makes
you stand out! But it's a lot like water. For
water (H20), you need 2 hydrogen atoms and one
oxygen atom. If not then you get some other
element you aren't looking for. You have to have
the right mixture of cocky AND funny or else it
doesn't work as well (although sheer cockiness
with
mild humor CAN work to a degree).

Now, I have a question and observation that is
important to me, David. SOMETIMES when I throw out
a cocky+funny response, they will say "Oh
whatever!" or roll their eyes or say you're mean,
get mad, or something like that and walk away.
This happens not often but on rare occasions.
These women are probably uptight anyways and not
worth getting know. When they say "whatever" or
"You're so mean" and they're laughing or smiling,
and they still keep talking to me, then I know
it's working. Also, when you say something like:
"...Oh quit lying, you were just walking near me
because you want me" and they say "No, I don't
want
you" or "No I wasn't, I was just doing _ _ _ _ _"
in a semi-serious tone, how do you respond to that
to keep the cocky+funny going? In other words,
what do you do when they act as if they ARENT
picking you up?

Thanks a million Dave...you've changed my life
forever... seriously.

GT from Nashville, Tennessee

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   OK, so let's talk about the great comments that
you've shared, and then I'll address your
question...

   I was amazed when I first realized that you
could actually turn the tables around, pretend
that you're trying to "resist her advances," and
make fun of her for trying to "put the moves on
you"... and wind up having the woman you're
talking to actually start feeling attracted to you
as a result.

   It really is amazing.

   Now, I know that a lot of guys hear this
approach and think, "Yeah, right. There's no way
that just pretending that a woman is pursuing you
will MAKE her pursue you"...

   But this isn't just any old common way of
"pretending."

   What you're doing here is a very special, Cocky
& Funny, flirty, engaging way of pretending.

   I'm sure you've watched the Discovery Channel,
and seen animals "play-fighting." It's common
among young animals in particular.

   Now, how do animals know that it's only "play,"
as opposed to "real" fighting?

   I mean, have you ever seen the way some
animals, like lion cubs and wolf pups jump on and
bite each other?

   It certainly LOOKS like real fighting.

   But it's not... it's play.

   Well there's a very similar thing that happens
when you flirt with a woman using the Cocky &
Funny technique... and when you use this further
to pretend that she's trying to "pick you up" and
you're "resisting her advances."

   You have to use just a LITTLE EXTRA drama.

   You have to be a little "overly suspicious"
with your tone.

   You have to act just a little too serious and
offended.

   These little cues, along with a good sense of
humor and timing are the hints and triggers that
make a woman instantly switch into "Oh, this is
play" mode, instead of behaving as if you're a
loser who has no imagination.

   There are some other key benefits as well, as
you mentioned above, when you're using this
approach.

   One is that you don't come across as nervous or
intimidated. The fact that you're turning the
tables around, having fun, and acting like you're
something special sends the message that you're
totally cool, calm, and comfortable in your own
skin... and, in fact, you're SO comfortable that
you're going to go immediately to "play" mode.

   Another is that it gives you a "character role"
to play that is the OPPOSITE of being a WUSS. This
is handy, as most guys switch quickly into Wuss
mode when they start talking to an attractive
woman.

   Finally, it gives you all kinds of great ways
to end the interaction...

   You can say:

   "OK, well I'm not going to give you my number,
but you can write down your email for me, and
maybe I'll get back to you sometime..." etc.

   It even makes taking things to the next level
easy and charming, because you're "resisting
forward."

   A quick personal story:

   I was at Hooters Restaurant yesterday afternoon
with a friend, and the waitress approached us to
get our order.

   She walked over and said something like, "Hi,
can I get you something to drink?" etc.

   I pretended not to notice her, and kept talking
to my friend.

   Then, as she finished asking the question, I
turned to her with a surprised and "fake offended"
look on my face and said, "Oh, that's OK, I was
just TALKING" (as if she had interrupted me).

   She opened her mouth with the "Oh, no you
didn't! I can't believe you just said that" look.

   I shook my head at her.

   Then my friend looked at her and said, "Wow,
you're very forward. Next thing she's going to be
asking for your phone number."

   I shook my head at her again, and rolled my
eyes.

   We gave her the drink order, and she went away.

   She came back a few minutes later to tell me
that my drink was going to be delayed, because
they were making some kind of change in the
kitchen.

   Of course, I threw up my hands in despair,
rolled my eyes at her, and shook my head (as if
she was disappointing me horribly).

   She laughed and said, "Hey, you'd better watch
out, I might have to ask you for your phone
number"...

   THAT FAST.

   We had talked for a grand total of about a
minute, and she was already joking around about
asking me for my number.

   Keep in mind, this is a HOOTERS waitress (and a
cute one, at that). She works in an environment
where hundreds of guys try to pick up on her, one
after the other...

   Now, as you can imagine, this kind of thing
happens all the time when I interact with
waitresses, etc. I've found that it's no harder to
get a waitress to give you her email/number than
it is to get any other girl's info, by the way.

   What's the secret?

   Being playful, fun, different, Cocky & Funny,
and not acting like a Wuss who wants to call her
100 times a day and tell her how pretty she is.

Here's your question again:

"...SOMETIMES when I throw out a cocky+funny
response, they will say "Oh whatever!" or roll
their eyes or say you're mean, get mad, or
something like that and walk away. This happens
not often but on rare occasions. These women are
probably uptight anyways and not worth getting
know. When they say "whatever" or "You're so mean"
and they're laughing or smiling, and they still
keep talking to me, then I know it's working.
Also, when you say something like: "...Oh quit
lying, you were just walking near me because you
want me" and they say "No, I don't want you" or
"No
I wasn't, I was just doing _ _ _ _ _" in a semi-
serious tone, how do you respond to that to keep
the cocky+funny going? In other words, what do you
do when they act as if they ARENT picking you
up?..."

   What I'm about to tell you is sometimes hard
for guys to accept, so get ready.

   SOME PEOPLE DON'T HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR.

   No, really.

   My guess is that something like 60%-80% of the
population just plain aren't very interesting or
fun to talk to.

   Some people are actually ARROGANT about their
lack of a sense of humor.

   These are my personal favorites.

   I remember meeting a girl at a bar a couple of
years ago.

   I was in Hollywood, CA at a fancy bar, and she
was one of these "I'm a beautiful actress, and I
know it" types.

   I was ordering a drink, and she bumped into me.

   I turned and said, "Don't touch me!"

   She just looked at me with a "You're a jerk"
look, and leaned away from me.

   I smiled at her and said, "It was a joke, it's
OK" (with kind of a slightly sarcastic "you didn't
get it" tone of voice).

   She said something like, "Well, it wasn't
funny. You seem like an arrogant jerk."

   LOL!

   I couldn't help myself... I burst into
laughter.

   She, of course, got even more annoyed.

   Now, most guys would have gotten all upset,
thought that they must have done something majorly
wrong, and tried to apologize and get the woman to
like them.

   I immediately recognized this girl as a person
who just plain doesn't have a sharp sense of
humor, and who is probably a HUGE pain in the ass
to deal with in real life... so I laughed at her.

   You'll notice that a lot of guys write in to
the Mailbags with questions like, "I'm dating four
women right now, and they're all wonderful, but
there's this ONE girl that I just can't get... how
do I make the one that isn't interested LIKE me?"

   This is a curious thing.

   We humans always want the approval of the
person who doesn't want to give it to us.

   Instead of just walking away and saying, "your
loss," we often chase after them, begging and
pleading for their approval... and thinking that
we must have done something wrong.

   Remember, some people actually ENJOY making
other people feel bad. Some women actually ENJOY
rejecting men. It gives them a feeling of power.

   There are MANY women who will spend all week
shopping, two hours putting on their clothing and
makeup (and doing their hair), just to go out and
get attention from men... so they can reject those
men, and complain to their friends about what
"losers" and "pigs" men are, and how they hate it
when men look at them like a "piece of meat."

   Go figure.

   Let me give you a little "tough love."

   Part of growing up, becoming a REAL MAN, and
getting this area of your life handled is
realizing that not all women are nice people, and
not letting those that aren't nice AFFECT YOU.

   You can reach a point in your life where your
attitude should become "I do not give anyone
permission to take my joy, happiness, and good
mood away from me."

   When you get to this point, then IT DOESN'T
MATTER if a woman doesn't respond positively to
your approach.

   It doesn't matter if she rejects you.

   It doesn't matter if she doesn't have a sense
of humor.

   None of this matters when you don't give anyone
permission to TAKE YOUR JOY AWAY FROM YOU.

   My advice: Learn to walk away. Learn to blow it
off. Learn how to IMMEDIATELY disconnect and
detach from these types of situations, and NOT let
them affect you.

   The "numbers game" goes both ways.

   If you start meeting a lot of women, you will,
by nature of meeting a LOT of women, meet quite a
few that don't have a sense of humor, aren't
friendly, aren't available, etc.

   You need to learn the skill of keeping your
power and joy for yourself, and NEVER giving it to
someone you don't even know.

   Make a decision right now that your joy is your
own, and that you'll never allow another person to
take it away from you.

   Dude, someone give me a hug.

   OK... on a more serious note...

   If you've been reading my newsletters for
awhile, or you've had a chance to download a copy
of my eBook or check out my Advanced Series, then
you know that I really believe it's important to
get your "inner game" handled.

   By "inner game," I mean things like your
emotions, your outlook on life, your "mental map"
of how things work between men and women, etc.

   It took me a long time, and a lot of trial and
error to find the things that REALLY work best
when it comes to making women feel that powerful
emotion called ATTRACTION.

   And one of the most important things that I
realized is that if you don't get your INNER GAME
together, and learn how to THINK about women and
dating, all the techniques in the world aren't
going to help you very much.

   In my Advanced Series, I spend several HOURS
going over everything from the evolution of human
mating to the beliefs and attitudes of guys who
are "naturally" good with women.

   I think it's important to change the way you
THINK as you change the way you BEHAVE.

   Women use little clues to figure out if you're
the "real deal" or if you're just "faking it."

   If you don't BELIEVE in what you're doing, then
you're going to come across as a fake. You'll feel
like you're being "manipulative"... and like a
fraud.

   When you UNDERSTAND what is happening, how and
why women act the way they do, and how to make
women feel ATTRACTION, then your behaviors feel
"right" and they come across as AUTHENTIC...
because they ARE.

***QUESTION***

Dave:

On your audio series, you talk about getting past
the fluff and "talk to that other part of the
woman" How do you do that? I answer ads on the
personals, and I keep thinking that my dialogue
with these women is all wrong.

I know you gotta be C&F, but sometimes there's not
much to go on from an online profile. Here's an
example from a girl that lives in my neighborhood:

"I'd like to eventually settle down with someone
that I can look to as a best friend and that I can
laugh with. I enjoy traveling, working out, yoga,
music, and dining out in NYC. I am playful and fun
and have a lot to offer the right man. I believe
that the best relationships are based on
friendship. I am genuine, kind and compassionate
and I am looking for the same in a man.

My ideal match is the kind of guy that isn't
afraid of being himself. He knows what he wants
and goes for it. He is confident, not cocky. He is
a person of good character, high morals and loyal.
He is thoughtful, considerate and knows how to
treat a lady. Last but not least, my ideal man is
attractive with a good sense of humor".

I can't think of anything cocky to say to
this...or how to communicate that I'm a sexually
aware man. I'm not really sure what you mean by
sexually aware anyway, unless you mean sexually
successful...like when you know you're hot and
women want you.

So, can you help me understand how you'd respond
to an ad like this?

thanks,

-R

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   OK, first of all, I recommend that you go back
through the CD Audio Program, and pay attention to
the workbook that came with it.

   I actually included a sample "cut and paste"
type of answer for personal ads that works very
well.

   In fact, when I originally published it in one
of these dating tips newsletters, I had literally
dozens and dozens of guys from all around the
world who wrote in saying that they cut and pasted
it and sent it out in response to women's personal
ads... and had fabulous response.

   Now, let me address a few of your comments...

   To summarize what I think about your situation,
I'd say that you probably need to keep reviewing
the material that you have, and keep practicing.

   If you have little experience with women, then
you have almost no frame of reference for what I'm
talking about in general. Until you start DOING
more, you just won't "get it" as well.

   As far as responding to a woman's online
personal ad...

   Remember, women who run personal ads are
getting TONS of responses.

   If you're going to play the personals, stay
current with them, and contact women as soon as
they place their ad. This way you'll be one of the
first to start a conversation with her... as
opposed to the 497th guy. At some point, the
hundreds of men who are responding to a woman's
personal ad all run together into a big lump of
desperate men. So, be first if you can.

   Secondly, forget about trying to respond to a
woman's personal ad by reading it, thinking about
it, considering what she's looking for, and then
responding in a way that she will find
interesting.

   No no no!

   The ad you sent above could have been written
by any woman in any part of the world... it might
as well be a generic ad template for women.

   The one thing this ad DOESN'T mention (and the
one thing that NO female personal ads EVER
mention) is what makes this woman feel ATTRACTION
for a man.

   Think about it for a minute...

   This woman sat down one night at her computer,
and said to herself:

"I'm tired of the dating game. Maybe if I put a
personal ad online and describe the kind of guy
I'm looking for, Prince Charming will find me and
we'll live happily ever after."

   Can't you just FEEL it in her words?

"I'd like to eventually settle down with someone
that I can look to as a best friend and that I can
laugh with..."

"I believe that the best relationships are based
on friendship..."

   And the whole last paragraph is priceless...

"My ideal match is the kind of guy that isn't
afraid of being himself. He knows what he wants
and goes for it. He is confident, not cocky. He is
a person of good character, high morals and loyal.
He is thoughtful, considerate and knows how to
treat a lady. Last but not least, my ideal man is
attractive with a good sense of humor..."

   So what do most guys do when they read an ad
like this one?

   Of course... they write back something like:

"Hi, I'm a nice attractive SWM who has a sense of
humor, high morals, is honest, and also believes
that a good friendship is the foundation for a
great relationship."

   UGH!

   Someone bring me a bucket, because I'm gonna
PUKE.

   Look... when a woman is writing a PERSONAL ad,
she's usually at a point in her life where she's
lonely... and has often lost hope of finding a
long-term companion in the real world.

   OF COURSE she's going to write all this sappy
stuff.

   But that doesn't change ANYTHING about what is
going to get her attention and make her feel
ATTRACTION.

   Again, my gut tells me that you're trying to
figure out how to answer this kind of personal ad
with a WUSSY response that will make her love you.

   Don't.

   And to address your question of how to
communicate that you're a confident, sexually
aware man...

   You do this by NOT trying to please her, saying
what she wants to hear, and kissing up to her.

   It sounds to me like you need to spend more
time studying the materials you have, practicing
your Cocky & Funny skills, and making your
personality more interesting... and less time
chasing women who are looking for an open, honest,
Yoga-loving husband via the personal ads.

   Use the materials you have!

   Practice!

   Get online with an instant messaging service
and work on your Cocky & Funny. Copy and paste the
personal ad response in your Advanced CD Series
and use it to answer personal ads.

   Until you're REALLY good at engineering, quit
trying to reinvent the wheel.

***QUESTION***

Dave:

I've noticed that on your newsletters or e-book
you haven't commented on hypnotic language which
some guys use to seduce women. Is it worth
looking into or is it more work than its worth?
What is your opinion on this subject? I know that
with your vast amount of knowledge, you have a
worthwhile opinion in this area.

Thanks RF, NYC

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   I've tried all this stuff... and, in fact, I
know quite a bit about the topic of "hypnosis." I
was fascinated by it several years ago... and, for
certain things, it seems to be of great use.

   But, if you try it, you'll find just as I did
that it's a very INDIRECT way to accomplish your
objective. It's very abnormal and it feels
sneaky.

   Once you understand that you can actually cause
women to feel ATTRACTION for you by just
cultivating certain natural personality traits,
like confidence and humor, all else becomes
irrelevant.

   I know a lot of guys who are successful with
women, and the general consensus is that you MUST
get your inner game together FIRST. You must
understand how and why women are attracted to men
FIRST. Then, you must cultivate the ability to
make women feel that ATTRACTION for you with just
your communication and body language.

   Once you learn this skill, you can use ANYTHING
and it will work.

   In other words, once you're good at meeting
women, you can use juggling fire to meet women...
and it will work.

   But, if you DON'T "get it" and understand what
makes women feel ATTRACTION for men, then no
amount of tricks, hypnosis, or standing on your
head is going to make a damn bit of difference.

   I don't think that most guys want to have to
"seduce" women. I think that most guys want women
to feel ATTRACTION for them.

   Here's a definition for "seduction":

"The act of seducing; enticement to wrong doing;
specifically, the offense of inducing a woman to
consent to unlawful sexual intercourse, by
enticements which overcome her scruples; the wrong
or crime of persuading a woman to surrender her
chastity."

   Techniques to "seduce" women make your stomach
feel strange... because they're usually dishonest
or sneaky.

   And techniques to seduce women that involve
using things like hypnosis and other covert mind-
control not only make your stomach turn when you
use them, but they also don't WORK as well as the
things I'm teaching you.

***QUESTION***

To my mate, Dave. The main question I want to ask
is in regards to going out by myself. I walk
inside a club or a bar and I always get asked the
same old question .."Who are you here with". I
typically answer by myself. This causes
uncertainty and I feel that I am telling the lady
'Ohh, well I am lonely' (Note that the same
happens with guys & mind you, I am straight). The
answer, by myself is honest but triggers a
negative outcome, so what do I say?

For some silly reason I get the impression that
the other person is thinking to themselves, "ohh,
the poor thing".

I tend to prefer to go out by myself since there
are times that I have to do extra favours and more
things to get accepted with my mates and also they
are a lot of times when they act just plain
negative which as an old Greek proverb says "Show
me your mates so I can see who you are" (if you
know what I mean). So, for the last few years I
have made a stance that I will do things
independently and work out things by myself and
that I don't need others. Note that this can
become an extremely long story so I will get back
to the topic.

One very bad thought I have, is if a women sees a
guy approach her by himself, she automatically
thinks, ok, this guy has no social life, he is
lonely and he must be desperate, so quickly what
do I do to turn him off. Look, your advice on the
CD does help but I personally think that a lot of
this stuff takes time and effort and should not be
looked as a quick aspirin cure.

PLEASE!!!! tell me the following questions:- - If
a guy or a girl asks me "who am I here with" what
is a good answer? - Is it natural for a guy to go
out by himself? (i.e are there other guys who do
the same?)

Awaiting your response.

From "Il" Australia

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Wow, these are great questions...

   I think you've hit on a couple of topics that
are MAJOR issues for a lot of men.

   I know that they were for me in the not-too-
distant past.

   OK, to answer your question about what to do if
a woman asks, "Who are you here with?"...

   It's time for Dr. Dave, The Mind Reading Dating
Psychologist, to make an appearance...

   I'm going to make a few guesses about what's
going through your mind.

   Hell, since I'm making some guesses, let's just
wrap up both of your questions into one:

   "Is it cool to go out alone, and what should I
do if I'm out alone and a woman asks me who I'm
with?"

   My first guess is that you're feeling self-
conscious about the idea of being alone.

   You said:

"One very bad thought I have is if a woman sees a
guy approach her by himself, she automatically
thinks, ok, this guy has no social life, he is
lonely and he must be desperate, so quickly, what
do I do to turn him off?"

   It's obvious that you have all kinds of
insecurity issues here, and they're really messing
with your mind.

   The next guess I have is that you're still
stuck in the mind set of "pleasing women" and
"saying what they want to hear".

   At some level, you're asking me what to say to
a woman who DISAPPROVES of the idea that you're
out alone.

   Are you with me here?

   Here are a few pointers for you:

1) What other people think of you is the last
thing you should be thinking about.

   Now, don't take this to mean that you should
never change your underwear or brush your teeth
because it doesn't matter what others think.

   That's not what I'm saying.

   What I AM saying is that if you go out alone,
and you meet a woman who thinks you're a TOTAL
LOSER for not being out with friends, it shouldn't
matter to you.

   You're not looking for THAT woman.

2) Going out alone is great.

   I used to be VERY uptight about the idea of
going out alone. It took me quite awhile before I
was really comfortable with the idea.

   And when women would ask me about it, I'd try
to figure out some good excuse to give them... or
way to explain it so I didn't appear to be a
loser.

   Well guess what I've learned since?

   Most of the guys I know who are AMAZING with
women go out alone... often.

   In fact, if you really think about it, a guy
who has the confidence to go out alone, KNOWING
that he's going to meet a woman that he enjoys...
and is keeping his options open, so if he chooses
to go home with her, etc. he can... is amazing.

   That takes balls.

3) When a woman asks you "Who are you here with?",
you have a few basic options.

- You can answer her directly ("I'm here alone") -
You can lie ("My friends will be here soon") - You
can turn the question around (read on).

   Now, if you answer directly and say, "I'm here
alone" in a weak, tentative, self conscious,
insecure voice, you're going to look like a Wuss
Bag loser.

   Women aren't attracted to men who feel like
losers.

   And answering questions directly is usually
uninteresting.

   You can also lie.

   A lot of guys lie about things... from what
they do to what they think of a woman... to how
much they make.

   Lying is a trap because it makes you feel bad,
AND it screws up your mind. I don't recommend it.

   But there is another way!

   And it's my favorite (of course).

   TURN THE QUESTION AROUND.

   If you remember that women are CONSTANTLY
testing you when you interact with them, and you
are always looking for places and ways to
demonstrate your Cocky & Funny wit, you'll see
incredible opportunity in situations like this.

   She asks, "Who are you here with?"

   You answer, "I'm here with you."

   Seeeee?

   She smiles, laughs a little and says, "OK,
seriously... who are you here with?"

   You answer, "Look, I only know you a few
minutes and already you're trying to meet my
friends? By the end of the week you're going to be
over at my mom's house talking about our wedding.
Slow down!"

   Now what's going on here?

   What you're subtly saying is, "It doesn't
matter who I'm here with... and by the way, If I
am here by myself, I'm not at all insecure about
it..."

   Guys ask me all the time how to deal with
questions and challenges from women.

   DON'T.

   You don't have to.

   Just be charming, funny, and difficult.

   It works much better, and it's a hell of a lot
more fun for you and her.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave you are right the C & F seem to work but
I wanna ask you something...how often are you
supposed to be c & f? I mean, are yu supposed to
sprinkle it in during a normal convo or should yu
use it moderately or at every single thing she
says? I ask b/c id like to hold a normal convo
also & in your opinion wat would be best? Im
interested in your opinion on this.

CJ, New York

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   The more you use it, the more you'll get a feel
for how much to use Cocky & Funny.

   Use it a LOT in the beginning, on the first
outing for a cup of tea, during the first dates,
etc.

   The exception is if you don't have a lot of
time, and you want to get a woman's number/email
fast. In that case, use the 3 minute technique I
talk about in Double Your Dating, and as described
in a past newsletter that you've probably read. In
those cases, it takes too much time.

   Also, as you get to know a woman, you'll have
more and more "normal" conversations...

   Never stop being Cocky & Funny, unpredictable,
etc.

   But you can ease up a little as you get to know
a woman better.

   Use it... and you'll get it.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

You are absolutely, positively the man.... I
always thought to myself, there should be more
literature on the subject of "Meeting Beautiful
Chicks." Your ebook is the answer...You can go to
a bookstore and get all types of how-to books on
things that exist in the physical world, i.e.,
fixing a car, etc. But never about things that
exist in the mental world, at least not for the
things that matter such as picking up chicks....
Like I said before your ebook is the answer! I
suggest anyone reading this email that has not
picked up at least the ebook, to DO IT NOW!!   Its
worth it dude.... Trust me...

Since reading the ebook and making minimal changes
in my game... I have been able to consistently
pick up at least one chick per week, but I need
the advanced series to really get my game on
point... I think that will assist with picking up
the 9's and 10's... not just the 6's and 7's. I'll
be picking that up next week to move to the next
level!!

In the meantime here's my reflection and a
question that should be helpful to others once
answered.

Here's my story.

I'm a 30-Year-old African American Male, who was
voted best looking in High School, and I make over
100K/year.... So I generally do not have that hard
of a time initially meeting women... But would
always screw it up with the women that I really
found interesting... I was being a wuss...

I'd meet multiple women in a night out with the
boys... There would be the one's that I really
liked... The 9+'s, and the one's that I kinda
liked, but was not too excited about... The 6's
and 7's

The way I approached the 9+ was all wussie...and I
usually never even got the phone number, but if I
did, I would immediately try to make her like me,
be a general pain in the ass, calling all the
time, etc. And not get anywhere past an initial
phone conversation.

The way that I approached the 7 was different
because I did not feel intimidated by her...and
most importantly could kinda care less if I spoke
to her or not... I usually had no fear of telling
a joke, or busting on her... The result being that
she sensed the confidence and really liked me...If
it progressed any further she would always reach
out to me.... calling all the time, and be a
general pain in the ass...

So my question is this:

How can I make the same response happen with women
that I am interested in? The hot, intelligent,
9's and 10's...The ebook has helped tremendously,
but I'm not there yet..

Is there some mental trick that I can play so that
I act the same way with all women (cock/funny),
Not just 6's and 7's????

Your help is much appreciated, and much success my
friend you deserve it!!

KT Atlanta, GA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Well, you're certainly on the right track...

   By the way, congratulations on getting up to
speed and being able to meet one woman every week.

   For a lot of guys, that's like saying you can
levitate into the air and fly.

   Keep it up, you're getting close!

   As for the REALLY attractive women, there are a
few things you need to keep in mind:

1) These women are approached A LOT. And I mean
ALL THE TIME. The real hotties of the world are so
used to being approached by men that they should
all be given honorary black belts in Wuss
Detection And Deflection.

   Super hot women have a lot of choice when it
comes to men, so they choose the best they can
get.

   If your game isn't REALLY together, you'll do
little things when you're interacting with these
women that will clue them in to the fact that you
don't really know how to play on their level.

   And I'm talking LITTLE things.

   Remember, these women are approached all the
time by men, and they have learned to make very
quick decisions based on very little information.

   A little comment, a certain look, or a little
gesture that hints to her that you want her
approval is all it takes.

   You're doing fine... you'll get it soon enough.

   Just stick with it.

   You're asking me how to meet the kinds of women
that most men would sell their mom into slavery
for one date with.

   You're on the right track, and the more you
practice and improve, the more success you'll
have.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

Hello Dave, my question is has follows: What
your opinion on women that work has exotic
dancers? I've generally heard that they have some
type of issue where they feel they need to
dominate/control men, now obviously we can't
stereotype all of them, but generally speaking
what's the scoop on these types of women? A
response would be appreciated.

M San Antonio,TX

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   BUST THEIR BALLS!

   Dancers are notorious for dating brutish,
abusive, loser guys who have no life...

   Dancers usually have all kinds of issues...

   Dancers are used to men kissing up to them and
giving them money just to look at them...

   BUST THEIR BALLS!

   Tell them they're the most successful sex
change you've seen lately.

   Ask them what they're going to be when they
grow up.

   Don't look at them while they're dancing.

   If you play their game, you become another one
of the hundreds of dumb-ass guys that they take
money from.

   If you completely avoid their game and instead
play your own, you will stand out.

   This is where EXTREME ball busting and Cocky &
Funny are most useful.

   WARNING:

   Be careful what you wish for.

   You are looking for trouble if you don't know
how to handle powerful women.

   If you're not careful, you're going to email me
next week saying, "Wow, that ball busting stuff
really works with dancers. The only problem is
that she stole my car and all my money, and now
her drug dealer is calling me all the time to find
out where she is..."

   If you want a first-class ticket to a Quentin
Tarantino movie, start dating a lot of dancers.

   And no, I'm not talking Jackie Brown kind of
freaky, I'm talking FOUR ROOMS kind of freaky.

   Don't say I didn't warn you.

***QUESTION***

Dear Dave, I have been reading your newsletter for
about a year now and it works great!! True
genius!!! I have always been cocky and funny even
before knowing what c&f was, you just helped me
realize exactly why I was succeeding with women.
There is this girl who is probably a 9-10, but has
had a boyfriend for some time now. I have been
cocky and funny with her since the day i met her
(btw she's a bartender) and she really seems to
respond to it. She poured me a drink once and
after I tasted it I said to her "whoa this is
really strong, are you trying to get me drunk to
take advantage of me," and she responded by saying
"oh yea baby" and smiled at me and rubbed my arm.
My question is as follows: I really want this girl
and she seems to respond to my cocky and funny
routine, in fact I think she likes me, but what do
I do about the boyfriend situation?? What are the
odds I can actually end up with this chick??

GB Orlando

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   OK, so what you're trying to tell me is that
the only attractive woman in ORLANDO, FLORIDA is a
bartender with a long term boyfriend?

   Hey, good idea...since there are only about a
million or so single women in your area, why not
pick one who's already seeing someone?

   Duh.

   Stop that!

   If a woman has a boyfriend, just walk away,
man.

   Every month or two, when you're ordering a
drink from her say, "Hey, are you still married?"

   This is funny because you're busting on her and
at the same time asking if she's still with her
BF.

   At some point she'll probably say, "No, I just
dumped him". Most relationships end, so stay in
touch.

   And in the meantime, do something productive
with your time... like dating some of the single
women in your area, who don't have boyfriends that
are probably the jealous 6'6" 250 pound meathead
bouncer at the bar who likes to beat up guys for
fun.

***COMMENT***

All I can tell you is, the guys without money
(some of whom are naturally cocky and funny) get
no women; the guys with money, whether they're
ugly, fat, or dull have the women pursuing them.
That's reality-- I've seen it happen so many times
that it's become a standing joke among all the
single guys I know! Around here (Chicago), a woman
ascertains a man's earning potential within five
minutes of meeting, and if he's lacking, she is
gone in a cloud of dust!

sl

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   You know, what you're saying makes perfect
sense.

   Except, how do you explain the probably 2 or 3
million adult men in the Chicago area who have a
lot to middle class income who are MARRIED?

   I have a good friend who lives in Chicago who I
personally watched get 25 different women's phone
numbers in the course of one weekend.

   He lived in a little apartment with a couple of
other people, made very little money, and dressed
casually.

   I think you need to get some new friends.

   Try making friends with guys who are SUCCESSFUL
with women, instead of guys who like to sit around
coming up with "standing jokes" about why they
suck with women.

   Sure, money helps. Duh.

   But money doesn't create ATTRACTION. Sorry.

   Get rid of your helpless mentality, and get out
there and make something happen for yourself!

   Making excuses for why you can't succeed
personally in life is one of the WORST uses for
your amazing mind.

   Stop it!

***QUESTION***

What up dave? There's no longer any doubt that
this stuff works! It's really great to actually
know what you're doing when dealing with women,
rather than aimlessly trying to meet them.. anyway
my question.. I met this chick at a party and
before she left, i asked her if she had e-mail.
She said, "how about my phone number?" I told her
that it's hard to get people on the phone but i'd
take it., she then writes her # down and said "I
wrote my e-mail down too but I'll think you're a
dork if you e-mail me, kind of jokingly. (WHY THE
HELL DID SHE GIVE IT TO ME THEN!!!!!?) Then, other
guys/friends delayed her leaving. so while i was
back with my friends, she came where i was sitting
right before she left and said., "you're going to
call me right", smiling. i was already kind of
drunk and i just nodded and said 'yeah' in an
indifferent tone cause i knew she liked me.. but i
could've said something better!!

2 QUESTIONS

1. What would have been cocky+funny thing to say
when she said .."but I'll think you're a dork if
you e-mail me.." and should i then proceed to e-
mail!?

2. When she comes back and asks if I'm going to
call her, what's the best thing i can say to bust
on her in this situation?

I appreciate everything you're doing, David.
please keep the newsletters coming!

--D Jax, FL

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   To answer the "I'll think you're a dork if you
email me" I probably would have said:

   "You'll think I'M a dork? Hey, you're the dorky
CHICK who has email..."

   And when a woman says, "you're going to call
me, right?" it means that she's REALLY into you...
as you know.

   So why not smile and say, "Why should I? What's
in it for me?"

   Then, when she says, "What do you want?" you
can answer with all kinds of great things...

   "Money"

   "Can you cook?"

   "Can I have anything I want?" (my personal
favorite)

   ...this is a great line of humor, and women
love it.

***QUESTION***

Hi David,

thanks for all your great info that i have been
receiving over the past several months. i have
been putting into practice the things i learned
from your e-book and newsletters with much
improved results in the dating scene...........in
a few of your newsletters you mentioned that
jealousy is the strongest of all emotions. how do
you deal with it if it is the woman who tries to
make you jealous. what's the best mindset and way
to handle it David.

d London

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Jealousy is an interesting topic.

   I'm not sure that I said it was the "strongest"
of all emotions... but I probably did say that it
was one of the most powerful.

   Jealousy causes people to do all sorts of
stupid things... but it can also keep
relationships together.

   If a woman knows that other women are
interested in you, she'll want you more.

   If a man finds out that his girl is sleeping
with another man, he can fly into a rage that
often leads to violence (or worse).

   Women are notorious for trying to make men
jealous.

   Many women intuitively realize that jealousy
will make a man more interested and make him work
harder for her attention and affection.

   If a woman tries to make me jealous, I just
laugh.

   If she says:

"Oh, this guy I used to date called me last night
to see if I was single..."

   I might laugh and say:

"Well you should go out with him."

   At this point a woman will usually realize that
what she's doing isn't working and say, "No, I
don't like him, why did you say that?"

   It's important to overcome the natural tendency
in life to have your emotions triggered by outside
events.

   It takes some work in many cases, but it's
worth it.

   Jealousy is an almost useless emotion. Do your
best to realize that you don't need it... and then
communicate that you're not easily played... and
you don't get jealous over other men.

   Works wonders, and makes you even more
attractive.

***QUESTION***

I met this girl...and I know that she is the one
for me. I can feel it, and have felt if since I
first met her. At first, I can tell she was
attracted to me...we hung out for like 13 hrs the
first time we ever met, went out after that, and I
had used the cocky - making fun of her thing. Then
I got all wuss like and told her how I felt.

Now, we don't see each other all that often, I know
that she has gone out with another guy, and she
told me that he was a total dick to her.

Question is...can I get her attraction to me back
by starting to do the cocky thing again??? This
along with talking about other women that I am
talking to and hanging out with...would this
possibly get her interest back in me??? I need
help on this. Thanks J

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Yeah, you need help on this.

   HELLO?

   Why did you stop doing what worked originally?

   Don't make me come down there and shake you!

   You're probably out of luck at this point, but
if you want to try and MAKE some luck, then get
back to doing what works.

   You don't need me to tell you this stuff again.

   Don't be a Wussy, man. Women aren't attracted
to Wussies.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

I read your ebook a few weeks ago and like
everyone else, I am going to suck up to you and
say its great. These tips really helped me out in
the dating life. To the problem, I've known this
Italian girl since the summer. It started out as
an Internet thing in a chat room as with my natural
humor and new set of balls, I got hooked into me.
Fast forward to a few months in November, we still
kept talking and views me as a "Friend", even
though we didn't even send a single picture to one
another. Things are going so well, that *she*
decides that we should meet up somewhere. We did,
and I bet every reader in this room would be very
very very jealous if they saw me with this girl.

Things went well on this "get together", I busted
her balls, made her laugh, and her facial
expressions were mostly "What the.." look with
sometimes leaving her speechless. At the end, she
said I was definitely a keeper..wee. Fast forward
to a few days ago, and now she tells me that she
had sex with her ex-boyfriend who "she loved" and
hasn't seen a long time. The reason why they
broke up is because he had to move, they were both
in good terms. Even though the ex is currently
seeing someone else, who he claims he is not
interested in this "other", they still did it. She
said at the end that she views me as a "friend"

My question: What gives? She was taking
initiative to even *ask* me out, which is
something that 0.001% of girls ask for, she
compliments me, kisses me, the whole package, yet
just a few days ago she tells me that she loves
her ex?

For some reason I am going to get the feeling you
are going to go on with my life, wish I could, but
even though I did "double my dating", my dates
haven't been all that fulfilling. Lets say my
best date besides this one was some Swedish Figure
Skater who kept talking about her past 90000
boyfriends.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Oh, yeah. I really feel for you.

   In the months since you've been reading these
newsletters and few WEEKS since you've read my
book you've dated a super-hot Italian girl and a
Swedish Figure Skater.

   And your dates haven't been "all that
fulfilling."

   Bummer, man.

   OK, as for your Italian girl who slept with her
ex.

   These things happen, man.

   Welcome to life on Earth.

   My book is called "Double Your Dating," not
"How To Make Sure Every Relationship With Every
Woman In Your Life Turns Out Like A Movie."

   Get out there and date some more women!

   That'll get your mind off of the Italian girl
(who you obviously feel attached to)... and onto
some other super-babes that you have yet to meet.

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

Well I've read your e-book for about the 4th time
now. I'm most likely going to read it at least
that many more times. I'm just starting to put
your teachings into the real world. The first time
out I was with 2 of my buddies and 2 women that
they both new a lot better than I did. One girl is
a 8/9 the other is a solid 9. Well my buddy was in
the process on dating the 8/9 so I started to work
on the 9. I did the C/F routine, but I think I was
a little short on the funny but after all my
teasing and busting she still smiled and laughed.
I told her some stuff about how "hotties" view men
and how beauty was like a curse to them. She
seemed to look at me like I could read her mind.
But after that she kind of drifted from me and
eventually went over by the guys that I bet her
would all sleep with her in a heartbeat.... who
all acted like ass kissers might I add. My
question is...did I scare her with my knowledge of
knowing so much of her game? Also it is really
hard for me to work in a group of people. How can
you really focus your skills when everybody is
always switching who they are talking to. I'd say
for a first time out it with my new tools it
wasn't a loss but more of a tie.

M Tampa

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   A "tie?"

   And what were you trying to do with this girl,
win a popularity contest?

   Did you ask her for her email?

   No.

   Did you ask her for her number?

   No.

   Quit talking so much about losers who like to
kiss ass and act like Wussies, and start thinking
NEXT STEP.

   Remember the bonus booklet that you got with
"Double Your Dating" called "Bridges?"

   This booklet teaches you how to go from one
step to the next.

   The principle is that you need to know where
you are going... and then take steps to get there.

   What... did you expect this girl to jump on
your lap and say, "Let's get out of here!"?

   Lighten up on being the profound guru a little,
and start thinking NEXT STEP.

   You didn't have a "tie" here, you had a "I
didn't do what it takes to win" here.

***QUESTION***

Dear David,

I have been reading your emails for about 6 months
now, and I gotta tell you. You're words and
advice have helped me with my life more than
anything else *ever*. I have gone from getting a
date with maybe one average looking girl every 4
months, to getting 7 or 8 dates from very
beautiful women in less than 2 weeks. My
confidence is skyrocketing, and women I would have
automatically accepted before (based on their
above average looks) are now often unacceptable in
one way or another (usually due to neurotic
behavior).

I have been changing my patterns and even people at
work are noticing the difference. I am way more
confident when confronted by my boss. I have gone
so far as to make cocky/funny jokes at his expense
hehe (surprisingly, it had the same effect on him
as the women, he's started following me around,
YIKES). I am attempting to find humor in every
situation. Even being stalked by my massive...
scary... hulking, boss (God help me).

I am still not at the place I want to be, but like
anything new, practice makes perfect (I imagine
buying your book and DVD set may help too). I can
actually notice daily improvements as I apply
these principles to my life.

Thank you so much David. Who knows, I may even get
a raise ;)

Quick question: I have had so many girls talk to
me about their problems like right away. I agree
with what you say about becoming a dumping ground
and how it has 'wussy' written all over it. Do
you have a few examples of how I could stop this
behavior without scaring them off or making them
think I am some kind of a**hole?

YOU ROCK

SF, BC

>>>MY COMMENTS:

   OK, first of all, congratulations on getting
7-8 dates from beautiful women in 2 weeks. You're
the man.

   To answer your question about what to say to
women who start talking about their problems right
away...

   Here's the deal.

   When a woman starts talking about her problems,
what she's REALLY saying is, "I'm feeling bad
right now. I think that if I talk about my
problems I'll feel good... so that's what I'm
going to do."

   I hope you're with me here.

   Most guys go along with this, and try to be
"nice" about the whole affair.

   If you're like I used to be, you actually TRY
TO HELP.

   Well guess what?

   This is a REALLY bad idea if you want a woman
to feel ATTRACTION for you.

   The BEST thing to do in these situations is to
make her FEEL BETTER.

   And being a "nice" Wuss Bag Girly-Man Therapist
isn't the way to do it.

   Try this:

   Next time a woman starts with the problems,
just interrupt her and say, "Hey, whoa... wait a
minute here... do I look like one of your
GIRLFRIENDS?"

   She'll say, "No."

   You say, "Great, then don't talk to me like I'm
one of them, OK?"

   Continue with:

   "If you want therapy, I'm going to have to
charge you at LEAST two hundred an hour... I'm
expensive. I'm in WAY too good of a mood to listen
to this stuff for free."

   Now, you MUST remember something here.

   You're NOT trying to come across like a
heartless bastard when you say this stuff.

   What you ARE trying to say is, "Hey, you have
girlfriends, and their role is comforting you and
talking about things. I'm not your girlfriend. I'm
the person who you feel GOOD when you're around...
the one that cheers you up... the one that keeps
you interested."

   This is a VERY important distinction.

   You must understand and believe this when you
do it, or else you'll just come across like a
selfish prick.

   I've done this exact thing NUMEROUS times in my
day, and almost EVERY time the woman stops,
laughs, and says:

"Oh, sorry. You're right... so what are you
doing?" etc.

   You can COMPLETELY change the mood and tone of
a situation if you stand up, act like a man, and
refuse the invitation to be her free Wussy
Therapist Buddy.

   But you really need to remember that a generous
helping of Cocky & Funny will make this work best.

   If you listen to her problems and act like a
girlfriend, then that's what you're going to turn
into.

   And thanks for the compliments... I get a lot
of feedback that this stuff helps in a lot of
different areas of life, and I know that my own
life has improved in many different ways as a
result.

   Oh, and you're right about the fact that
investing in my DVD program will REALLY help your
success.

   I guarantee that you'll be slapping yourself
and saying, "What the hell have I been waiting
for?"

   If you've been dating average women, you'll
start meeting SUPER hot women.